2048
Ibraaheem ibn Sa‘d narrated on the authority of his father narrating on the authority of his grandfather:
‘Abdul-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf said, "When we came to Al-Madeenah as emigrants, Allah's Messenger ﷺ established a bond of brotherhood between me and Sa‘d ibn Al-Rabee‘, who said (to me), 'I am the richest among the Ansaar, so I will give you half of my wealth and you may look at my two wives and whichever of the two you may choose I will divorce her, and when she has completed the prescribed period (before marriage) you may marry her!' ‘Abdul-Rahmaan replied, "I am not in need of all that. Is there any marketplace where trade is practiced?' He (may Allah be pleased with him) replied, "The marketplace of Qaynuqaa‘." ‘Abdul-Rahmaan went to that market on the following day and brought some dried buttermilk (yogurt) and butter, and then continued to go there regularly. Few days later, ‘Abdul-Rahmaan came having traces of yellow (scent) on his body. Allah's Messenger ﷺ asked him whether he had got married. He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet ﷺ said, 'Whom have you married?' He replied, 'A woman from the Ansaar.' Thereupon, the Prophet ﷺ asked, 'How much did you pay her (as dower)?' He (may Allah be pleased with him) replied, '(I gave her) a gold piece equal in weigh to a date stone (or a date stone of gold)! The Prophet ﷺ said, 'Throw a wedding banquet even if with one sheep.'".
Commentary :
The Islamic Laws of Islam urges Muslims to seek self-sufficiency, work to earn their living, and refrain from begging others for money or relying on their charity, because a Muslim is enjoined to preserve his dignity and save face.
In this hadeeth, ‘Abdul-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf (may Allah be pleased with him) stated that when he migrated to Al-Madeenah, the Prophet ﷺ established a bond of brotherhood between him and Sa‘d ibn Al-Rabee‘ Al-Ansaaree Al-Khazrajee (may Allah be pleased with him), who was one of the leaders chosen during the pledge of Al-‘Aqabah. A bond of brotherhood was a contract between two men (one from the emigrants and the other from the Ansaar) to support and show solidarity to one another just as two blood brothers would do.
Sa‘d offered his brother, ‘Abdul-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf (may Allah be pleased with them), half his wealth and asked him to choose one of his wives, so that he would divorce her, and after her ‘Iddah expired he could marry her. However, ‘Abdul-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf (may Allah be pleased with him) rejected the (exceptionally) generous offer and said: “I am not in need of all that. Is there any marketplace where trade is practiced?” He guided him to the marketplace of Qaynuqaa‘, which was named after one of the Jewish tribes in Al-Madeenah.
‘Abdul-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf (may Allah be pleased with him) frequently visited the marketplace and engaged in the trade of dried buttermilk (yogurt) and butter, and continued to work until he earned money. Afterward, he (may Allah be pleased with him) came to the Prophet ﷺ having traces of yellow (scent) on his body (i.e., customarily applied to the groom in wedding ceremonies). The Prophet ﷺasked him whether he had got married, and he (may Allah be pleased with him) replied in the affirmative. The Prophet ﷺ said, 'Whom have you married?' He (may Allah be pleased with him) replied, 'A woman from the Ansaar.' He (may Allah be pleased with him) married the daughter of Anas ibn Raafi‘, from Banee ‘Abd Al-Ashhal. The Prophet ﷺ asked, 'How much did you pay her (as dower)?' He (may Allah be pleased with him) replied, '(I gave her) a gold piece equal in weight to a date stone (or a date stone of gold)! This was equivalent to the weight of three Dirhams and one third.
The Prophet ﷺ commanded him to throw a wedding banquet even with one sheep. A wedding banquet is thrown on the occasion of marriage and may be done with one sheep or more, according to one’s financial ability. If someone cannot afford it, there is no harm in that. The Prophet ﷺ threw a wedding banquet with Saweeq (i.e., a liquid meal made of wheat and barley) and dates for some of his wives.
It was said the establishment of brotherhood bonds between the emigrants and the Ansaar (after the migration to Makkah) had two reasons. First, it conformed with the common practice of forming alliances in the pre-Islamic times with which they were familiar. The Arabs even used to establish inheritance rights based on their alliances. However, the Prophet ﷺ said: “There is no alliance in Islam!” Islam cancelled the practice of forming such alliances, but retained the practice of establishing ‘brotherhood bonds’ because human beings tend to develop an aversion when asked to give up the familiar all of a sudden.
Second, the emigrants came to Al-Madeenah while being in dire need of wealth and accommodation (as they left everything behind). They were graciously hosted by their fellow Muslim brothers from the Ansaar, and therefore Islam confirmed this manifestation of (the enjoined) solidarity by establishing brotherhood bonds between them. After the Battle of Badr, the practice of establishing ‘brotherhood bonds’ was no longer needed, because Muslims started gaining spoils of war.
It is deduced from the hadeeth that it is permissible to engage in trade, and that it is one of the noblest means of earning lawful wealth.
The hadeeth highlights the incomparable affection, love, and altruism embodied by the emigrants and the Ansaar during the lifetime of the Prophet ﷺ.
It is also inferred from the hadeeth that a Muslim is urged to throw a wedding banquet on the occasion of marriage.
It is also deduced that it is allowable for a Muslim man to wear perfume at his wedding ceremony.
.