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It was narrated that Jubayr ibn Mut‘im said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “As for me, I pour water over my head three times,” and he gestured with both hands..

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) explained to his ummah in both words and deeds how to purify oneself from impurity, which includes doing ghusl to cleanse oneself from janabah. In this hadith, Jubayr ibn Mut‘im narrates that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to pour water over his head three times. Some of the Sahabah differed concerning the way in which the head is to be washed when doing ghusl to cleanse oneself from janabah, and that discussion took place in the presence of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), as is mentioned in the report narrated by Muslim. Each of them demonstrated how he did it, and some of the people said: As for me, I wash my head like this, showing how much water they used and how many times they poured water over their heads, being extremely thorough in cleansing it. So the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to them: “As for me, I pour water over my head three times,” and he gestured with both hands. What that means is that he would take water in both hands, then pour it over his head, and he did that three times, to indicate the minimum amount of water that is sufficient to wash the head..

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It was narrated that Abu Ja‘far said: Jabir ibn ‘Abdillah said to me: Your cousin– meaning al-Hasan ibn Muhammad ibn al-Hanafiyyah – came to me and said: How is ghusl to be done to cleanse oneself from janabah? I said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to take three handfuls of water and pour them over his head, then he would pour water over the rest of his body. Al-Hasan said to me: I am a man who has a lot of hair. I said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) had more hair than you..

Commentary : The Sahabah (may Allah be pleased with them) were keen to learn from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) all religious matters – especially those that are done repeatedly every day, such as wudu’, ghusl and prayer – so that they would know these things and convey them to those who came after them.
In this hadith, Abu Ja‘far Muhammad ibn ‘Ali al-Baqir said: Jabir ibn ‘Abdillah (may Allah be pleased with him) said to me: Your cousin came to me – meaning al-Hasan ibn Muhammad ibn al-Hanafiyyah; this Muhammad was the son of ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him). Al-Hasan asked Jabir how to do ghusl to cleanse oneself from janabah. The word janabah refers to anyone who emits maniy (semen) as the result of a wet dream or intercourse; it is so called because he must avoid (ijtinab) prayer and other acts of worship until he has purified himself. Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) told him that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to take three handfuls of water and pour it over his head, then he would pour water on the rest of his body. Al-Hasan said to Jabir: I am a man who has a lot of hair, indicating that this amount of water was too little to wash his head, and would not be enough for all of his hair, using that as an excuse to use more water. But Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) had more hair than you, meaning that he used to do that with this amount of water, even though his hair was thick. This highlights that no one has any excuse for being extravagant in his use of water on the grounds that he wants to make it reach all of his hair [or body].
This hadith urges us to be economical in using water.
It highlights how long the hair of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was.
It also highlights the eagerness of the Tabi‘in to learn from the Sahabah (may Allah be pleased with them)..

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It was narrated that ‘A’ishah said: When the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) wanted to do ghusl to cleanse himself from janabah, he would call for a vessel the size of a milking pail, then he would scoop up a handful of water from it, and begin with the right side of his head, then the left side, and he gestured with both hands on the middle of his head..

Commentary : The word janabah refers to anyone who emits maniy (semen) or has intercourse; it is so called because he must avoid (ijtinab) prayer and other acts of worship until he has purified himself. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) taught us in both word and deed how to do ghusl to cleanse ourselves from janabah, and the etiquette and Sunnahs of doing so.
In this hadith, ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) tells us that when the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) wanted to do ghusl to cleanse himself from janabah, he would prepare to do that and he would ask that a vessel the size of a milking pail be brought. This refers to a vessel big enough to hold the milk of a she-camel. Then he would take a handful of water and start with the right side of his head, then the left side, then he did that with both hands on his head. In other words, he would take some water in his hand the first time and wash his head, starting on the right side, then he would take another handful of water and wash his head, starting on the left side. That was because he liked to start on the right in all things. Then he would take water in both hands for the last time, and pour it all over his head from his two hands. This is the Sunnah of ghusl as is proven from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him).
This hadith highlights how the wives of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) were keen to describe the tiniest details of his life, so as to teach the ummah..

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It was narrated that ‘A’ishah said: When the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) wanted to do ghusl to cleanse himself from janabah, he would wash his hands first..

Commentary : The word janabah refers to anyone who emits maniy (semen) or has intercourse; it is so called because he must avoid (ijtinab) prayer and other acts of worship until he has purified himself. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) taught us in both word and deed how to do ghusl to cleanse ourselves from janabah, and the etiquette and Sunnahs of doing so.
In this hadith, ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates that when the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) wanted to do ghusl to cleanse himself from janabah, he would wash his hands; what is meant is that he would wash his hands before doing ghusl and before putting his hand into the vessel to take some water, as is proven in another report. This is an example of prophetic etiquette, and is done so as to ensure that the hand is pure and that nothing dirty is stuck to it, so as not to contaminate the water. Thus he could be certain that the water was completely pure..

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It was narrated that Maymunah bint al-Harith said: I brought some water for the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) to do ghusl, and screened him. He poured water over his hand and washed it once or twice – Sulayman [one of the narrators] said: I do not know whether he mentioned a third time or not – then he poured water with his right hand onto his left hand and washed his private part. Then he rubbed his hand on the ground or on the wall. Then he rinsed his mouth and cleaned his nose, washed his face and hands, and washed his head. Then he poured water over his body. Then he stepped aside and washed his feet. Then I handed him a cloth, but he gestured like this with his hand, and did not want it..

Commentary : The word janabah refers to anyone who emits maniy (semen) or has intercourse; it is so called because he must avoid (ijtinab) prayer and other acts of worship until he has purified himself. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) taught us how to do ghusl to cleanse ourselves from janabah, and the etiquette and Sunnahs of doing so.
This hadith includes a description of his ghusl; his wife Maymunah bint al-Harith (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates that she brought water for the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) for him to do ghusl with it, then she concealed him with a curtain or screen. He poured water on his hand before putting his hand into the vessel, washing it once or twice to clean it before putting his hand into the water and scooping it up. The narrator was not sure whether the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) washed his hands a third time or not. Then he poured water with his right hand over his left hand, and washed his private part, then he rubbed his hand on the ground or on the wall so as to remove dirt from his hand. Then he rinsed his mouth by taking water into his mouth and moving it around, then spitting it out; and he cleaned his nose by sniffing water up into his nose, then expelling it, to clean the nose. Then he washed his face and hands, then he washed his head. Thus he did wudu’ before doing ghusl. Then he poured water over the rest of his body. Then he stepped aside from that place, and washed his feet outside of the place where he had done ghusl. Then – after he had finished his ghusl – Maymunah (may Allah be pleased with her) handed him a cloth with which to dry his body, but he gestured with his hand like this, indicating that he would not take it and did not want to take it; rather he left the water to fall from his body without him drying himself.
This hadith highlights how the wives of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) were keen to describe the tiniest details of his life, so as to teach the ummah..

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It was narrated that Muhammad ibn al-Muntashir said: I asked ‘A’ishah a question, and I told her what Ibn ‘Umar had said: I would not like to enter ihram in the morning with the smell of perfume still emanating from me. ‘A’ishah said: I put perfume on the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), then he went around to his wives, then he entered ihram in the morning..

Commentary : Wearing perfume is one of the things that are prohibited whilst in ihram; what is meant is putting on perfume after entering ihram.  ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) did not like to have any trace of perfume on him, even if he had put it on before entering ihram. Hence he said: I would not like to enter ihram in the morning with the smell of perfume still emanating from me. When Muhammad ibn al-Muntashir mentioned to ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) what Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) had said, she explained that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) put on perfume before entering ihram, and that she herself was the one who had put it on him, adorning him with beautiful fragrances before he formed the intention to perform the rituals, and before he entered ihram for that purpose. Then he went around to his wives and had intercourse with them, then he entered ihram on the morning of the following day, and undoubtedly the traces of that perfume were still present, as is mentioned in the report narrated in al-Sahihayn: It is as if I can still see the glistening of the perfume in the hair of the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) when he was in ihram.
This hadith indicates that it is prescribed to put on perfume before entering ihram.
It indicates that the Sahabah sometimes refuted one another’s views.
It highlights the fact that a woman may serve her husband and put perfume on him..

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It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The call immediately preceding the prayer (iqamah) was given, the rows had been straightened and the people were standing, and the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) came out to us. But when he stood in his place, he remembered that he was junub, so he said to us: “Stay where you are,” then he went back and did ghusl. Then he came out to us with his head dripping with water, and said the takbir and led us in prayer..

Commentary : Purification from impurity is a condition of prayer being accepted; no prayer is valid without one being in a state of purity.
In this hadith, Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) tells us that one day the iqamah was given for one of the prayers in the mosque of the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), and the rows were organized and straightened as the people stood for prayer. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) came out to lead the people in prayer, but when he stood in the imam’s place, he remembered that he was junub and had not done ghusl to cleanse himself from janabah. The word janabah refers to anyone who emits maniy (semen) or has intercourse; it is so called because he must avoid (ijtinab) prayer and other acts of worship until he has purified himself. So the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) instructed his companions (may Allah be pleased with them) to remain where they were, then he went back to the apartments of his wives and did ghusl, then he came out to them with his head dripping with water as a result of having done ghusl. Then he led the people in prayer. This was by way of teaching his companions and his ummah that no one should be embarrassed about acts of purification and doing what Allah has prescribed when he remembers it, and he should not feel embarrassed before people.
The hadith indicates that the one who remembers that he is junub when he is in the mosque should leave the mosque and do ghusl; he does not have to do tayammum in order to walk out of the mosque, and the same applies to the one who wants to pass through the mosque when he is junub..

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It was narrated that ‘A’ishah said: When one of us became junub, she would scoop water over her head with her hands three times, then she would pour water with her hand over her right side and pour water with her other hand over her left side..

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) taught us the etiquette of purifying ourselves and doing ghusl, part of which is to start on the right hand side.
In this hadith, ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) tells us that when one of the Mothers of the Believers (may Allah be pleased with them) became junub – and the word janabah refers to anyone who emits maniy (semen) or has intercourse; it is so called because he must avoid (ijtinab) prayer and other acts of worship until he has purified himself, and this applies to both men and women – she would scoop water with her hand and pour it over her head three times, to make the water reach the roots of the hair. Then she would begin by taking water in her hand and pouring it over the right side of her body, then she would do the same on the left side of her body, using the other hand. This is the sequence of actions when doing ghusl, starting on the right to seek blessing thereby, after washing the hair and the head first, to ensure that water reaches everywhere under the hair, because water does not reach there easily. .

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It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The Children of Israel used to bathing naked, looking at one another, but Musa used to bathe alone. They said: ‘By Allah, nothing is preventing Musa from bathing with us except that he has large testicles.’ He went to bathe one time, and placed his garment on a rock, then the rock fled with his garment, so Musa chased after it, saying ‘My garment, O rock!’ until the Children of Israel saw Musa and said: ‘By Allah, there is nothing wrong with Musa.’ Then Musa took his garment and struck the rock repeatedly.” Abu Hurayrah said: By Allah, he left marks on the rock, six or seven marks from striking it..

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) praised modesty and shyness (haya’) and urged people to be modest, stating that it is one of the branches of faith. The Prophets were the most modest of people, and our Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was more modest and shy than a virgin in her chamber. Allah’s Prophet Musa (peace be upon him) was also very modest and shy.
In this hadith, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) tells us of the modesty and shyness of Musa (peace be upon him). Because of his shyness and modesty, he did not bathe naked, even though the Children of Israel used to bathe naked and did not see anything wrong with that. It may be that that was permissible in their law. It was said that this may have happened when they were wandering in the wilderness, because there were no buildings there; it was also said that nakedness was forbidden for them, but they were careless about the matter and did it deliberately, deliberately flouting religious teachings and going against Musa (blessings and peace be upon him). This is an example of their stubbornness and carelessness in following the teachings of Musa.
Musa (peace be upon him) never appeared naked in front of anyone when bathing. When the Children of Israel saw Musa refraining from bathing naked as they did, they began to speak ill of him, and said that he had large testicles; it was also said the word translated here as large testicles refers to a scrotal hernia. On one occasion he went to bathe, and he put his garment on a rock. It was Allah’s will to prove that what they were saying about Musa was false, so the rock fled by Allah’s leave, taking Musa’s garment with it, as he was chasing it and running behind it, saying, ‘My garment, O rock!’ Musa (peace be upon him) only spoke to the rock because he regarded it as something sentient after it had fled with his garment, so it had ceased to be inanimate and now came under the heading of animate things. This is why he called out to it. When Musa appeared naked, the Children of Israel saw him and realized that he was sound in body. It may be that he was wearing a thin waist wrapper which showed what was beneath it and it got wet, so they saw that he was the best of creation, and the vile notion that they had had in mind was dispelled. So they said: By Allah, there is nothing wrong with Musa and no defect in him. Then Musa caught up with the rock, took his garment and put it on. Then he struck the rock, leaving six or seven marks on it, and the traces of his blows, of which there were six or seven, were clearly visible to the onlooker.
This hadith speaks of a miracle of Musa (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), namely: the rock’s running away, carrying his garment, to a group of the Israelites; Musa’s calling out to the rock; and his blows leaving marks on it.
It also indicates that Allah (may He be exalted) made His Prophets perfect both physically and in their character, and He protected them from having defects and shortcomings..

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It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Whilst Ayyub was bathing naked, locusts of gold fell on him, so Ayyub started to collect them in his garment. His Lord called out to him: ‘O Ayyub, have I not made you independent of means so that you have no need of what you see?’ He said: ‘Yes indeed, by Your glory, but I cannot do without Your blessing.’”.

Commentary : Allah (may He be glorified and exalted) has promised His slaves good things as provision, and has enjoined them to give thanks for His blessings. If a person gives what is due on his wealth and give thanks to the Bestower of blessings, then he has done what is required of him. The Prophets are the most perfect of people, the most grateful and the most assiduous in giving what is due.
In this hadith, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) tells us that Allah’s Prophet Ayyub (peace be upon him) was bathing naked one day, but he was far away from where people could see him. There came down upon him from heaven locusts of gold, as a miracle from Allah (may He be exalted), so Ayyub (peace be upon him) began to pick them up by the handful and throw them into his garment. Allah (may He be exalted) said to him: “O Ayyub, have I not made you independent of means so that you have no need of what you see?” This was not a rebuke from Allah (may He be exalted); rather it was more like speaking gently to him and testing him to see whether he would give thanks for what had been bestowed upon him, and thus become more grateful. Hence Ayyub (peace be upon him) swore by Allah’s glory that he recognized the blessing that Allah had bestowed upon him, then he said: But I cannot do without Your blessing. It is impossible to think that Ayyub (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) took this wealth out of love of worldly gain; rather he took it, as he himself explained, because it was a blessing from his Lord, for it was newly created by Allah (may He be glorified and exalted), or because it was an extraordinary new blessing, so he should accept it and express his need for whatever Allah sent down of good. That was an expression of gratitude and appreciation for the blessing, for ignoring it would have been a kind of ingratitude for it.
This hadith indicates that it is prescribed to be keen to acquire halal wealth.
It also highlights the virtue of being well off, for one who is grateful, because he called it a blessing..

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It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) met him in one of the streets of Madinah when he was junub, so he turned back from him, then he went and did ghusl, then he came back. [The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)] said: “Where did you go, O Abu Hurayrah?” He said: I was junub, and I did not like to sit with you when I was not in a state of purity. He said: “Subhan Allah! The Muslim does not become impure (najis).”.

Commentary : The Sahabah (may Allah be pleased with them) had the greatest respect for the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). Some of them viewed janabah as a very serious matter, and regarded it as a kind of physical impurity, so they would not like to sit with the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) or touch him when they were in that state. But the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) explained to them the correct view concerning that matter, and that the believer never becomes impure (najis), even if he is junub, as referred to in this hadith. Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) tells us that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) met him in one of the streets of Madinah when he was junub. This word refers to anyone who emits maniy (semen) or has intercourse with his wife; it is so called because he must avoid (ijtinab) prayer and other acts of worship until he has purified himself. So Abu Hurayrah turned back after meeting the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), without speaking to him or greeting him; he went and did ghusl and purified himself, removing the state of janabah and major impurity, then he came back to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), who asked him why he had disappeared and hidden in a manner that was not normal in his case. Abu Hurayrah told him that he had refused to meet the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) because he believed that if the Muslim is junub, he has become impure (najis). The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was surprised by Abu Hurayrah’s thinking and what he believed, for janabah only prevents a person from praying, touching the Mus-haf and entering the mosque; it does not prevent him from sitting with other Muslims or meeting them, and the one who is junub does not become impure in a literal sense. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) told him that the Muslim does not become impure and that he is not filthy, meaning that when the Muslim is not in a state of purity (taharah), he is impure according to Islamic rulings, but he is not impure in a real sense, so he himself does not become najis because of the impurity that happened to him in his body. The description of him being impure is just a ruling that the Lawgiver applies to the body, so janabah prevents him from doing some things, such as praying and reading Qur’an. As for sitting with other people and interacting with them, that is not included among the things that are not allowed when one is junub. The believer is pure (tahir) in and of himself always, whether he is junub or not..

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It was narrated from ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar that he said: ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab mentioned to the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) that he became junub at night, and the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to him: “Do wudu’ and wash your penis, then go to sleep.”.

Commentary : Islam is a religion of mercy and compassion towards people, and seeks to make things easy for them. One example of that is the fact that purifying oneself from major impurity after becoming junub in order to resume doing acts of worship is a ruling with which one must comply; janabah is a shar‘i description, and it does not prevent one from dealing with other issues of daily life.
In this hadith, ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that ‘Umar asked the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) whether a person could go to sleep when he is not in a state of purity because he is junub.
The word junub refers to anyone who emits maniy (semen) or has intercourse with his wife; it is so called because he must avoid (ijtinab) prayer and other acts of worship until he has purified himself. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) told him that if he wanted to go to sleep when he was in a state of janabah, it was better for him to do wudu’ and wash his penis, but he did not have to do a complete ghusl. According to a report narrated by Muslim, he said: “Yes; let him do wudu’ then go to sleep, and then he does ghusl when he wants to.” Thus the time of doing ghusl is based on his choice, and ghusl becomes necessary if he wants to do some act of worship, especially when the time for prayer comes; in that case he must do it before the time for that prayer ends.
This hadith indicates that one may ask about matters of concern, and should not feel too shy to ask.
It also indicates that janabah is a shar‘i description, and is not to be taken literally..

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It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “When a man sits between the four parts (arms and legs) of his wife and has intercourse with her, then ghusl is obligatory.”.

Commentary : The word janabah refers to anyone who emits maniy (semen) or has intercourse with his wife; it is so called because he must avoid (ijtinab) prayer and other acts of worship until he has purified himself. This applies to both men and women. This hadith highlights one of the things that make it obligatory to do ghusl to cleanse oneself of janabah, namely intercourse. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) tells us that when the husband sits with his wife in an intimate position, and sits “between her four parts” – meaning between her arms and legs, or between her legs and thighs, and there are other explanations – and has intercourse with her; what is meant is penetration, which is when the man’s penis enters into the woman’s vagina and its head disappears, then ghusl becomes obligatory for both spouses at that point, regardless of whether the man ejaculates or not, as is clearly stated in a report narrated by Muslim, in which it says, “even if he does not ejaculate.” This hadith abrogates other hadiths which say that ghusl is not obligatory for a man who has intercourse with his wife but does not ejaculate.
This hadith indicates that one should not be explicit or mention words that could cause embarrassment or be considered obscene, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used a metaphor to refer to intercourse..

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It was narrated from Ubayy ibn Ka‘b that he said: O Messenger of Allah, what if a man has intercourse with a woman and does not ejaculate? He said: “He should wash what touched the woman of his body, then do wudu’ and pray.”.

Commentary : Janabah refers to major impurity that results either from intercourse or the emission of maniy (semen). Islamic teaching enjoins doing ghusl to energize and cleanse the body, and to purify oneself completely.
In this hadith, Ubayy ibn Ka‘b (may Allah be pleased with him) mentions that he asked the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) about the ruling on a man who has intercourse with his wife but does not ejaculate; does he have to do ghusl? The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) replied by saying: “He should wash what touched the woman of his body”, which is a metaphor for washing the penis, as mentioned in the report narrated by Muslim, then he may do wudu’ and pray, and he does not have to do a complete ghusl, washing his entire body. This was the ruling in the beginning, then it was abrogated by what is mentioned in several other hadiths, which indicate that intercourse necessitates ghusl, regardless of whether ejaculation occurs or not, such as the hadith narrated by Muslim from ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): “When he sits between the four parts (arms and legs) of his wife and one circumcised part touches the other, then ghusl becomes obligatory.” What is meant is the circumcised part of the man and the circumcised part of the woman. In al-Sahihayn it is narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “When a man sits between the four parts (arms and legs) of his wife and has intercourse with her, then ghusl is obligatory.” Thus he stated that ghusl becomes obligatory for both spouses as a result of this intercourse, regardless of whether the man ejaculated or not, as is clearly stated in a report narrated by Muslim: “even if he does not ejaculate.”.

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It was narrated from Hisham ibn ‘Urwah, from ‘Urwah, that he was asked: Can a menstruating woman take care of me or can a woman come close to me when she is junub? ‘Urwah said: All of that is fine with me; whatever the case, she may take care of me, and there is no problem for anyone in that regard. ‘A’ishah told me that she used to comb the hair of the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) when she was menstruating and the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was observing i‘tikaf in the mosque; he would put his head out for her when she was in her apartment, and she would comb his hair when she was menstruating..

Commentary : Among the Jews, when one of their women menstruated, they would banish her from the house, and they would not eat with her, drink with her or be in the same room as her. In our religion, however, the menstruating woman is not to be blamed for something that Allah has ordained for her, so her body is pure, apart from the place where the impurity is.
In this report, the Tabi‘i Hisham ibn ‘Urwah narrates that someone asked his father, ‘Urwah ibn al-Zubayr: Is it permissible for a menstruating woman to take care of him or to come close to him? Or for a woman who has become junub as a result of an erotic dream or intercourse to do that? ‘Urwah explained to him that there is nothing wrong with a woman who is menstruating or is junub taking care of someone else, or coming close to someone else; she may take care of him when she is menstruating or is junub, with no reservations, and she does not incur any sin. Then he narrated that ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), the wife of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to comb the hair of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) when she was menstruating and the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was observing i‘tikaf in the mosque at that time. He would bring his head close to her when she was in her apartment and the rest of his body was in the mosque, and he was aware of her condition and that she was menstruating. Her apartment was attached to the mosque.
Even though this hadith indicates that it is permissible for a menstruating woman to take care of her husband and others, it also indicates that it is permissible for a woman who is junub to be close to other people and to take care of others. This is understood by analogy with the woman who is menstruating; what they have in common is major impurity, and this is a clear analogy.
The hadith refers to combing a man’s hair, and includes other things that come under the heading of adorning oneself.
It indicates that a menstruating woman may care for her husband and help him with personal hygiene.
It indicates that if the one who is observing i‘tikaf puts his head, hand or foot outside the mosque, that does not invalidate his i‘tikaf.
It highlights the Prophet’s kind treatment of his wives, and how he would understand their situation and condition.
It indicates that the body and clothing of the menstruating woman are pure (tahir). .

1441
Abu ad-Dardā’ reported: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) came across a woman in the advanced stage of pregnancy at the door of a tent, and he said: "Perhaps he wants to copulate with her." They said: 'Yes.' Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I resolved to curse him with a curse that would enter his grave with him. How would he be his heir while this is not lawful for him?! And how would he employ him while this is not lawful for him?!".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) used to forbid his Companions from unlawful things and all that Allah, the Exalted and Glorified, prohibited. He would sometimes do so by encouraging them to obtain the reward with Allah Almighty and other times by intimidating them from the penalty and punishment of Allah.
In this Hadīth, Abu ad-Dardā’ (may Allah be pleased with him) informs that while the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was on a journey, he passed by a woman in the advanced stage of pregnancy. She was one of the captives and was sitting at the door of a tent. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Perhaps he", meaning her owner and master who obtained her as his share of the captives. "wants to copulate with her" i.e., wants to engage in sexual intercourse with her. However, it is not lawful for the master of a pregnant captive to copulate with her until she gives birth. Then, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said that he resolved and intended to supplicate against him to be turned away from Allah's mercy and for that to continue after his death. He (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) intended to curse him because he failed to ascertain the emptiness of her womb, for if he copulates with his captive whom he owns while she is pregnant from someone else, he is thus neglecting to ascertain the emptiness of her womb. However, the cursing did not take place because this man was not aware of the ruling.
His words: "How would he be his heir while this is not lawful for him" means that this slave-girl captive may give birth after six months, and thus, the baby is likely from this captor, and it is likely from someone before him. So, if he is from the captor, then he is his child, and they may inherit from each other; and if he is from someone else, then he and the captor may not inherit from each other, given the lack of blood relationship.
Then, he said: "And how would he employ him," i.e., the child? If he employs him as a slave, it is probable that he came from him, and thus, he will be enslaving his child and cutting off his own lineage, and for this, he will be worthy of cursing. And if he attributes the baby to himself as his child, it is likely that he did not come from him, and thus he will be making him his heir, whereas he is not his heir, and for this, he will be worthy of cursing.
The Hadīth indicates that captivity nullifies previous ownership and dissolves marriage.
It also indicates that when there is a new owner of a female slave, it becomes due to ascertain the emptiness of her womb. So, he may not copulate with her until her womb is verified to be empty of pregnancy.
It also points out that it is forbidden to copulate with a pregnant captive until she gives birth..

1442
Judāmah bint Wahb - sister of ‘Ukkāshah - reported: I was there when the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to some people: "I was about to forbid Ghīlah (sexual intercourse during the breastfeeding period), so I considered that the Romans and the Persians do it without any harm done to their children thereby." Then they asked him about coitus interruptus, and the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "That is the hidden Wa’d (burying a child alive).".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was keen on benefiting the believers and showed sympathy and concern for them. He left nothing that could be of benefit to them without guiding them to it and ordering them to do it. However, he used to correct the lies and suspicions that were spread among people and inherited from the pre-Islamic era of ignorance out of guidance and politeness.
In this Hadīth, the female Companion Judāmah al-Asadiyyah bint Wahb (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates that she attended with the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) an assembly that had some of his Companions (may Allah be pleased with them). The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I was about to," i.e., I was determined to forbid "Ghīlah", which is having intercourse with one's wife during her breastfeeding period, or a woman's conception during the breastfeeding period. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was determined to forbid it because there was a popular belief at that time that it was harmful to the infant. They used to say that if the breastfeeding woman had sexual intercourse with her husband and conceived during her breastfeeding period, her milk would be spoilt and the child would get weak if he fed on it, and the Arabs would hate and avoid him. However, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) saw that the Romans and the Persians - two great kingdoms at that time - did this without worrying about it, besides the fact that it did not cause their children any harm; so, he did not forbid it.
Then, the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) asked him about the ruling on coitus interruptus, which means removing the man's penis from the woman's vagina before ejaculation and ejaculating outside the vagina to avoid conception. The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "That is the hidden Wa’d," considering the coitus interruptus hidden burial of a child alive because it entails wasting the sperm that Allah Almighty has prepared to be a child. So, it resembles killing a child by burying him alive. However, there is no doubt that it is less grave, and this is why he said it is hidden.
In the Two Sahīh Collections, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to those who asked him about the coitus interruptus: "It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Judgment will be born," i.e., no soul to exist in the knowledge of Allah Almighty except that it will come to exist, whether the coitus interruptus is done or not. Despite the coitus interruptus, there could be a small amount of semen ejaculated which Allah destined to form a child, and on the other hand, there could be normal ejaculation without conception. In short, coitus interruptus or normal ejaculation are equal as both do not lead to having a child except by Allah's decree..

1443
‘Āmir ibn Sa‘d reported: that Usāmah ibn Zayd informed his father Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqās that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "I practice coitus interruptus with my wife." The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to him: "Why do you do that?" The man said: "I fear for her child - or for her children." Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If this was harmful, it would harm the Persians and the Romans." [In a version]: "If it was for that, then no. This does not harm the Persians or the Romans.".

Commentary : Islam is keen on the safety of Muslims and has guided them to what presents good care of children. This includes the exhortation to provide good suckling.
In this Hadīth, Usāmah ibn Zayd (may Allah be pleased with him) relates that a man came to the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "I practice coitus interruptus with my wife." Coitus interruptus is practiced by removing the male sex organ out of the woman's vulva before ejaculation, and the man ejaculates outside the vulva, to prevent pregnancy. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) asked him: For what reason do you do this act? The man said: "I fear for her child", who suckles from her. This is because if she gets pregnant, her milk will be spoiled, and the body of the baby will become unsound and weak. Or he meant the famous notion among the Arabs that copulation damages milk and that such milk will be a malady and if the baby drinks it, he will become ill. So, he feared that he would be thin and unwell. Thereupon, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to him: "If this was harmful" - copulation or pregnancy during the period of suckling - "it would harm the Persians and the Romans", for the women of the Persians and the Romans suckle their babies while they are pregnant. So, if pregnancy or copulation during the period of suckling was harmful, it would harm their children. But the reality belies that, as they do not care to avoid this matter and their children are in good condition, and you are like them in this regard..

1451
’Umm al-Fadl reported: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "One suckling or two or one sucking or two does not make marriage unlawful." [In a version]: (and) instead of (or)..

Commentary : Islam has made suckling a bond like blood relation, and it has established the unlawfulness of marriage by suckling like the unlawfulness of marriage due to blood relations. It has forbidden a man from marrying his sister, mother, maternal aunt, or paternal aunt by suckling, and so on.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) informs about the amount that does not establish the ruling on suckling that makes marriage unlawful. He says: "One suckling or two or one sucking or two does not make marriage unlawful." This was said in response to someone who asked about one suckling and two. So, he replied that they do not make marriage unlawful, whether this suckling happens before the completion of two years or beyond that. The amount that makes marriage unlawful is five sucklings taken before the completion of two years. In a Hadīth by Muslim, ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: "In what was sent down in the Qur’an was ten known sucklings that make (marriage) unlawful. Afterwards, they were abrogated by five known ones. Then the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) passed away while they were part of what was recited in the Qur’an." And ’Umm Salamah reported: The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The only suckling which makes marriage unlawful is what is taken from the breast and enters the bowels and is taken before the time of weaning." Narrated by At-Tirmidhi..

1452
‘Ā’ishah reported: It was revealed in the Qur’an that: ten times of known breastfeeding prohibits (marriage); then it was abrogated and replaced with five times of known (breastfeeding). The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) died while these (words of the abrogating verse) were still being recited as part of the Qur’an..

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) clarified for his Ummah all that is lawful and unlawful including the rulings of breastfeeding and the consequent rulings related to lineages.
In this Hadīth, the Mother of the Believers ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reports the amount that used to establish the ruling of breastfeeding, that makes marriage prohibited at first, whereby the woman becomes prohibited for the man to marry the same, as it is prohibited for him by consanguinity (being descended by the same ancestor). She (may Allah be pleased with her) reported that it was first revealed in the Qur’an that ten times of known breastfeeding prohibits marriage. Then, this number was abrogated, and it became five times of known breastfeeding, i.e., known and satiating during the two years of infancy. In At-Tirmidhi's Collection, ’Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) reported: The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "No prohibition results from breastfeeding, except for what penetrates the intestines from the breast before weaning." So, breastfeeding after two full years does not prohibit anything, as Allah Almighty says: {Mothers may breastfeed their children for two full years, for those who wish to complete the full term of breastfeeding.} [Surat al-Baqarah: 233] Abrogation in the Qur’an has three types: First: What is abrogated in terms of ruling and recitation. Second: That which is abrogated in terms of recitation apart from its ruling. Third: That which is abrogated in terms of ruling apart from its recitation. The first two types of abrogation are found in this Hadīth. (Ten times of known breastfeeding prohibits) was abrogated both in terms of ruling and recitation, whereas the five times of breastfeeding was abrogated in terms of recitation only and its ruling has remained.
The statement of ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her): "The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) died while these (words of the abrogating verse) were still being recited as part of the Qur’an" meaning: The abrogation by the five times of breastfeeding was revealed at a very late stage to the extent that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) died while some people were still reciting the part of the five times of breastfeeding as part of the Qur’an because of not being aware of that recent abrogation. Later, when they learned about the abrogation, they stopped reciting it and unanimously agreed that it should not be recited..

1453
Zaynab bint Abi Salamah reported: I heard' Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, say to 'Ā’ishah: By Allah, I do not feel comfortable to be seen by a boy who has passed the age of suckling. She said: Why? Sahlah bint Suhayl came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, by Allah, I see (displeasure) on the face of Abu Hudhayfah because of Sālim entering." She said: Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Suckle him." She said: "He has a beard." He said: "Suckle him, and what is on the face of Abu Hudhayfah will go away." She said: "By Allah, I did not see it on the face of Abu Hudhayfah.".

Commentary : In this Hadīth, Zaynab bint Abi Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) informs that she heard her mother' Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, swearing to 'Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and saying: "By Allah, I do not feel comfortable" i.e., I do not like it; "to be seen by a boy" from non-Mahram (unrelated) males "who has passed the age of suckling" i.e., he is no longer in need of suckling. Thereupon, ‘Ā’ishah said to ’Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with both of them): "Why?" i.e., why are you saying this, whereas there is nothing wrong with that if you suckle him or he is suckled by someone who makes him a Mahram (related and non-marriageable) to you? This is evidenced by the fact that "Sahlah bint Suhayl", the wife of Abu Hudhayfah, came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and swore to him that she would see dislike on the face of Abu Hudhayfah because of their foster son Sālim continuing to enter the house as he would usually do when he was young, and he now reached adulthood - particularly after verses had been revealed prohibiting adoption. Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Suckle him" to be your son by suckling. She said to him: "He has a beard" for he is an adult man. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Suckle him and what is on the face of Abu Hudhayfah will go away" i.e., the sign of dislike will vanish from him. Sahlah did so and then she swore that she did not find the sign of dislike on the face of Abu Hudhayfah after she had suckled him.
This Hadīth is problematic in terms of explaining it and deriving rulings therefrom, and difference of opinion actually arose over it among the Prophet's wives. ’Umm Salamah and some of the Prophet's wives believed that this was a dispensation from the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) to the wife of Abu Hudhayfah alone, and they held that there should be no suckling for adults and that the suckling that makes a person a Mahram is the one provided in young age and which grows the bones and builds the body and flesh.
As for ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), she - as reported here - held that suckling causes prohibition of the same things made prohibited by blood relations, whether the suckled one is a child or an adult. She cited as evidence the story of Sālim, the freed slave of Abu Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with both of them) and that the ruling is not exclusively restricted to them.
What appears to be right - and Allah knows best - is that suckling of adults does not count, has no effect, and causes no prohibition, and that true suckling is that which occurs during babyhood; and what happened in the story of Sālim is particularly restricted to him and does not apply to anyone other than him. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) affirmed that not every suckling causes prohibition. In a Hadīth in the Two Sahīh Collections, he said: "Indeed, suckling is from hunger" i.e., the suckling that counts is the one that occurs at the time when milk is relied upon for food and in the amounts that affect the growth of the baby's body.
The Hadīth points out that suckling causes prohibition of the same things made prohibited by blood relations.
It demonstrates that there is a difference of opinion regarding the suckling of adults and its resultant effects..

1454
Zaynab bint Abi Salamah reported that her mother ’Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, reported: The other wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) refused to let anyone privately enter their houses by such suckling. They said to ‘Ā’ishah: "By Allah, we do not see this except as a dispensation which the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave to Sālim in particular. No one would enter our houses or see us by such suckling.".

Commentary : The Hadīth addresses an incident that took place during the Prophet's lifetime, namely suckling an adult, which means suckling a person after the age of two years and the time of weaning, and beyond, so that he can be Mahram - like suckling in the age of suckling. ’Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, informs that all the wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) refused to let anyone privately enter their houses by such suckling that is given to a person after the age of weaning, for they were commanded to observe Hijab. An exception was ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), who held the view that such suckling makes marriage unlawful like suckling during babyhood. They swore to ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and said: "By Allah, we do not see this except as a dispensation which the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave to Sālim", the freed slave of Abu Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him), "in particular"; not generally for everyone. Therefore, we will not let anyone enter our houses or see us by such suckling.
The dispensation which the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave to Sālim in particular is mentioned in a Hadīth narrated by Muslim in his Sahīh Collection, in which ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reported: that Sālim, the freed slave of Abu Hudhayfah, was with Abu Hudhayfah and his family in their house. His wife Sahlah the daughter of Suhayl came to the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "Sālim has reached the age of manhood and understands what men understand. He enters our house, and I think that Abu Hudhayfah is not comfortable with that." Thereupon, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Suckle him and what Abu Hudhayfah feels will go away." She returned and said: "Indeed, I suckled him, and what Abu Hudhayfah felt went away."
It is reported in a Hadīth narrated by Abu Dāwūd that ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) would ask the daughters of her sisters and brothers to suckle whomever she liked to enter her house - even if he was an adult - five times, and then he would enter her house. However, ’Umm Salamah and the other wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) refused to let anyone enter their houses by such suckling unless the suckling occurred in the cradle. Hence, the statements and attitudes of other wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) constituted evidence that the suckling of an adult does not count, has no weight, and does not establish the unlawfulness of marriage; and that true suckling happens in babyhood, and what happened in the story of Sālim is an exceptional peculiarity that was limited to him and does not apply to anyone else. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) emphasized that not every suckling makes marriage unlawful. In a Hadīth in the Two Sahīh Collections, he said: "Indeed, suckling is from hunger" i.e., the suckling that counts is the one that occurs at the time when milk is relied upon for food and in the amounts that affect the growth of the baby's body..

1456
Abu Sa‘īd al-Khudri reported: that at the battle of Hunayn, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) sent an army to Awtās. They encountered an enemy, fought, attained victory over them, and took female captives from them. Some of the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon them) seemed to have refrained from having intercourse with them, as they had husbands among the polytheists. So, Allah Almighty revealed in this regard: {Also [prohibited are] married women except for female slaves you may own} [Surat an-Nisā': 24], i.e., they are lawful for you when their waiting periods come to an end..

Commentary : The Shariah regulated the religious rulings regarding times of peace and war. Since war results in captives from the men of the enemy and their women, the Qur’an and the Sunnah clarified the rulings concerning them. It prohibited copulation with pregnant and married female captives until they gave birth or until non-pregnant captives were verified to be non-pregnant by having menses.
In this Hadīth, Abu Sa‘īd al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) informs that during the battle of Hunayn - which took place in the eighth Hijri year, after the Conquest of Makkah, between the Muslims and the people of Tā’if among the two tribes of Hawāzin and Thaqīf, in a valley called Hunayn, which is situated between Makkah and Tā’if; as the disbelievers had gone out with their property, women, and children; and after Hawāzin and Thaqīf were defeated and Allah granted victory to His Prophet and the Muslims, the fleeing disbelievers withdrew to the valley of Awtās, which is close to Hunayn - the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) sent an army to them, and they encountered an enemy from the disbelievers, whom they fought, overcame, and defeated. Among their spoils were captives from the polytheist women. Some of the Prophet's Companions refrained - out of fear of committing a sin - from having intercourse with them because they were married women, and a married woman is not lawful for anyone other than her husband. So, they thought that their marriage to their husbands was not severed. Therefore, Allah Almighty revealed verses demonstrating the ruling on copulation with those they refrained from: {Also [prohibited are] married women except for female slaves you may own.} [Surat an-Nisā’: 24] i.e., prohibited for you is marrying married women, except for the women you possess by taking them into captivity, as their marriage to their disbelieving husbands is dissolved. They become lawful for you after their wombs are verified to be empty of the semen of the disbelieving husbands, either by childbirth, in case the woman is pregnant, or by one menstrual period, if she is not pregnant.
The Hadīth indicates that the marriage of polytheists is dissolved if their wives are taken captive, as they go into the ownership of their captors.
It shows how a person should pause, search, and ask about any matter when he is not certain of the reason behind it and its ruling. This is the attitude of anyone who fears Allah Almighty..

1460
‘Abdul-Malik ibn Abi Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān reported: that when the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married ’Umm Salamah and she stayed with him and it was the morning, he said to her: "You are not humbled in the estimation of your husband. If you wish, I will stay with you for seven nights; and if you wish, I will stay with you for three nights, and then visit the others in turn." She said: "Stay for three nights.".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was both fair and merciful in dealing with his wives. In this Hadīth, the Tābi‘i ‘Abdul-Malik ibn Abi Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān relates that when the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married' Umm Salamah Hind bint Abi' Umayyah (may Allah be pleased with her) after her husband Abu Salamah (may Allah be pleased with him) had died, he stayed in her house for three nights, which was his Sunnah in case the woman was previously married; then when he wanted to leave her house and go to the others, he noticed that she considered the three nights to be little. So, he said to her: "You are not humbled in the estimation of your husband" i.e., you will not be underestimated and your right will not be lost at all. Then the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave her the choice, saying: If you wish, I will stay with you for seven nights" - and stay with other wives of mine for the same period - "and if you wish, I will stay with you for three nights, and then visit the others in turn." i.e., if you are content with these three nights, I will go to my wives in turn, one night at a time, till I come back to you. She said: "Stay for three nights" i.e., I am content with the three nights, to avoid his long absence from her..

1460
‘Abdul-Malik ibn Abi Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān reported: When the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married Umm Salamah, he entered upon her, and when he wanted to leave, she took hold of his garment. The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: If you wish, I can stay longer with you and count it for you; a virgin is entitled to seven, whereas a previously married woman is entitled to three..

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) set the greatest example in fulfilling justice between his wives and putting the family relations in order in case of polygamy.
In this Hadīth, the Tābi‘i Abu Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that when the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married ’Umm Salamah Hind bint Abi ’Umayyah (may Allah be pleased with her) after the death of her husband, Abu Salamah (may Allah be pleased with him), he entered upon her and consummated the marriage with her. After spending three days with her, he wanted to leave her house for the house of another one of his wives; however, she took hold of his garment so he would stay with her. He (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) clarified to ’Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) what she was entitled to regarding his overnight stay with her, saying: "If you wish" to have more than three days "I can stay longer with you and count it for you," i.e., calculate for you the total time of my stay with you because of this extra time. In other words: I extend my stay and the rest of my wives become entitled to the same number of days. Then, he informed her that a virgin wife - who had not been previously married - was entitled to seven nights than his other wives if he had sexual intercourse with her; whereas the Thayyib - who had been previously married - was entitled to three days.
In another Hadīth narrated by Muslim, when the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married ’Umm Salamah and she stayed with him (during the night), he said to her: "Indeed, you are not inferior in the sight of your family," i.e., you will not be underestimated, and none of your right will be lost; rather, you will take it in full. He then gave her the choice to stay for three days with her without having to make up for them or to stay for seven days with her and make it up for the rest of his wives. The three have the privilege of not having to make up for them, while the seven have the privilege of being successive and fulfilling perfect intimacy. ' Umm Salamah said: "Stay three," so she chose the three because they were not to be made up for, and he would, thus, return to her sooner since he would spend the night with them in turn then come to her. However, if she had chosen seven, he would not return to her except after making it up (days) for his other wives, and he would, thus, be far from her for a long time.
The virgin is exclusively granted seven days given her shyness, which requires extra time, patience, sensibleness, and gentleness, besides the fact that one feels inclined to stay longer with her so that he can stay with her for up to seven days in a row. On the other hand, the previously married woman had already experienced marriage, and her need for intimacy is lesser, besides the fact that one is less attached to her than to the virgin. However, given that she is not familiar yet with the company, she is honored by extending the stay, which is three. After that, he has to start dividing his time, whether he has one, two, or three wives before her.
The Hadīth indicates the recommendation of showing kindness to one's family, children, and others..

1462
Anas reported: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) had nine wives. Giving them an equal share of his time meant he would not return to the first woman except on the ninth day. So, they used to gather every night at the house of the one to whom he would come. He was at 'Ā’ishah's house. When Zaynab came, he stretched his hand towards her, thereupon, she said: This is Zaynab. So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) withdrew his hand. There was an altercation between the two until their voices became loud. Iqāmah (second call for prayer) was pronounced for prayer and it happened that Abu Bakr was passing by and he heard their voices. He said: O Messenger of Allah, come for prayer and throw dust in their mouths. So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) went out and ‘Ā’ishah said: Now the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) will finish his prayer, and Abu Bakr will come and do such-and-such to me. When the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) finished his prayer, Abu Bakr came to her and spoke to her in harsh words and said: Is this how you behave?!.

Commentary : The Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) were keen on reporting all the Prophet's acts, even what used to happen inside the house of his everyday life affairs. The purpose was to know how the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) used to deal with various situations in life to follow his example.
In this Hadīth, Anas ibn Mālik (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) had nine wives. When giving each wife her share and turn on her day and night, he would not return to the wife who took the first turn in his overnight stay except after nine nights, given that he used to stay a day and a night with each of them. It was the habit of the Prophet's wives to gather every night at the house of the one with whom the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) would stay to enjoy his company and be close to him, then, each would go to her room.
One time, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was at ‘Ā’ishah's house, on her day and night, and his wives gathered there as usual. When his wife Zaynab bint Jahsh (may Allah be pleased with her) came, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) stretched his hand to her by way of fondling. It is said: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) thought it was ‘Ā’ishah because it was night and it was her night and turn. So, ‘Ā’ishah said: "This" towards whom you stretched your hand is "Zaynab", as if ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) criticized the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) for fondling someone other than her since it was her night and her turn in her share of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him). So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) did not stretch his hand towards Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with her) and stopped. Thereupon, Zaynab and 'Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with them) altercated, disagreed, and argued due to jealousy "until their voices became loud," i.e., they were making immense noise.
Meanwhile, the time for prayer was due, and the Iqāmah was pronounced, and Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) passed by while they were in such a state of arguing noisily and loudly. So, he heard the voice of ‘Ā’ishah and Zaynab disputing. Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "O Messenger of Allah, come out for prayer" and throw dust in their mouths, which is an indirect reference to rebuking and putting an end to their dispute and loud voices. "Hathyah": the amount that fills both hands.
So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) went out and ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said to those who were with her, after the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) had left with Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him): "Now the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) will finish his prayer, and Abu Bakr will come and do such-and-such to me," i.e. when Abu Bakr finishes his prayer with the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him), he will come to me and rebuke and scold me severely for what I did, as a father would typically discipline his daughter.
‘Ā’ishah's fears came true, as when the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) finished his prayer, Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) went to her, blamed her, rebuked her, and scolded her severely for raising her voice in the presence of the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him). Abu Bakr said to ‘Ā’ishah: "Is this how you behave?!" He was blaming her for her dispute with Zaynab in the Prophet's presence.
The Hadīth clarifies the Prophet's fulfillment of justice between his wives and his kindness and courteousness with them.
It signifies how a husband should give each of his wives an equal share of his time.
It also highlights the virtue of Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) for showing compassion towards the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him).
Moreover, it shows that the less qualified person could call the attention of the more qualified one to what is good for him..

1463
‘Ā’ishah reported: I never saw a woman I would like to be in whose Mislākh (skin) more than Sawdah bint Zam‘ah. She was a woman characterized by sharpness. As she became old, she gave her day with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) to ‘Ā’ishah. She said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have granted my day with you to ‘Ā’ishah." So, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) allocated two days to ‘Ā’ishah; her own day and that of Sawdah..

Commentary : The Mother of the Believers Sawdah bint Zam‘ah, wife of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was one of the ascetic and devout worshippers. The Prophet's wives acknowledged each other's merits and were quite aware of what distinguished each one of them from the others.
In this Hadīth, ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reports that she never wished or liked to be like any of the Prophet's wives or in her place except for Sawdah bint Zam‘ah, as she wished and loved to be like her in worship and obedience, and in her manner and conduct. "Mislākh": skin, and it means: that I become her in terms of the qualities that she admired about her. Her saying: "She was a woman characterized by sharpness" is a way of describing Sawdah, not criticizing her. She meant by that to highlight her strength and solidity in challenging situations. When Sawdah grew old, she granted her day with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) to ‘Ā’ishah. Sawdah (may Allah be pleased with her) did this out of her sagacity, as she gave her day to the woman who loved the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) most. So, ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) had two days with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him): her day and Sawdah's day. This does not mean that they were two days in a row; rather, what is meant is clarifying the number of ‘Ā’ishah's days with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) in each of his rounds with his wives (may Allah be pleased with them).
The Hadīth points out that Ghibtah (envy free from malice) is in goodness, and it means one's wish to be like another in his praiseworthy qualities.
It also clarifies how the Prophet's wives loved him and sought to please him, and it guides the wives to seek to please her husband by doing what he likes..

1467
Abdullah ibn ‘Amr reported that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "This world is an enjoyment, and the best of its enjoyments is a righteous woman.".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) guided men and youth to choose the righteous woman for marriage because she is one of the greatest blessings bestowed upon man in this world.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) reports that "the world is a Matā‘," and Matā‘ is what one benefits from and enjoys, and the best worldly enjoyment for man is the religious wife, who gladdens him by looking at her and by her obedience. She is chaste, guarding herself in his absence, and she is honest, protecting his wealth. This is the essence of the righteous woman; she is righteous in her religion and herself and a reformer of her husband's conditions.
Here, he mentioned the woman in specific terms, and qualified her with righteousness to make it known that she is deemed the evilest worldly enjoyment if she does not have such a characteristic. This is because if righteousness does not prevent her from evil, she becomes evil itself. In this case, she does not push her husband or urge him except towards evil, and the least she can do is to make him crave this world until he puts himself into destruction therein..

1468
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, if he witnesses something, let him speak good or remain silent. And take care of women, for the woman was created from a rib and the most crooked part of the rib is its top. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it; and if you leave it, it will remain crooked. So, take good care of women..

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) advises us to adopt manners and morals that enhance familiarity and love between Muslims.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) informs that "whoever believes in Allah" Who created him perfectly, in terms of belief and acts, by testifying that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, and by adhering to the pillars of faith and its characteristics as a whole including words and deeds;
and believes in "the Last Day," which is the Day of Judgment to which he will return and where he will receive recompense for his deeds, and here, belief in Allah and the Last Day were mentioned in particular, among all other things that one should believe in; in reference to the beginning and the end of all things, i.e., if he believes in Allah Who created him and that He will recompense him on the Day of Judgment for his good and evil deeds, then, let him speak good or remain silent. This wording is meant to encourage and promote adherence to the command or the prohibition mentioned in the Hadīth. "If he witnesses something" in general, whether between two, a group, or the like, and there is a need for him to speak about it, then let him consider it carefully; if there is goodness in his words, then he should speak, or else he should keep silent.
The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) used to advise men to treat their wives kindly in compliance with the commands of Islam. Given the fact that women are originally created with crookedness, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) drew attention to that saying: "Take care of women" with the following addition in Al-Bukhāri version: "good care", i.e., advise each other to treat them kindly. "For the woman was created from a rib," which is one of the chest bones. In other words, there is crookedness in their original creation. "And the most crooked part of the rib is its top", this description is meant as an exaggeration in describing such crookedness and to emphasize the probability of breaking because the difficulty of straightening the top is apparent. It is said: Perhaps this is meant to refer to the woman's upper part that has her head and tongue, from where the crookedness springs. It is also said: That the form of "A‘waj" (crooked) here is meant as a description not to indicate preference, as colors and defects do not have forms indicating preference. If you try to straighten the rib and make it straight, it will break. Similarly, if you want a woman to be perfectly straight in morals, this will lead to breaking her, which is divorcing her. as mentioned in Muslim's version. "And if you leave it, it will remain crooked" as it was originally created, so it is impossible to straighten it. This is set as an example of the crookedness in women's morals; if sought to be upright, this could lead to divorce. Then, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "So, take good care of women," i.e.; there is no way except enduring this crookedness patiently. Hence, this should be tolerated with patience, and women should be treated benevolently and kindly.
Or it could be referring to gentle redress; refraining from exaggeration that leads to breaking and from negligence that leads to persistence in crookedness. To sum up, he should not neglect her crookedness if she exceeds her natural deficiency level by committing sins or abandoning duties; however, what is meant is that he should neglect her crookedness regarding what is permissible.
The Hadīth implies guidance to maintaining one's tongue and protecting it from idle talk.
It also sheds light on the importance of appeasement in attracting souls and winning hearts.
Moreover, it shows how women could be handled through pardon and patience with their crookedness..

1469
Abu Hurayrah reported that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Let not a believing man hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another - Or he said: another one.".

Commentary : Faith calls to noble morals. Thus, no believing man or woman is free from good manners, as faith requires the existence of praiseworthy qualities in them.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) says: "Let not a believing man Yafrak a believing woman," and "fark" means hatred and dislike. The "believing man" and the "believing woman" here refer to the husband and wife. It was said: This is a form of negation that denotes prohibition, i.e., she must not be totally hated. It was also said: It is a prohibition, i.e., the husband must not absolutely hate his wife in such a way that leads to oppressing, abandoning, and turning away from her. Then, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) explained this by saying that if the husband hates a bad quality in her, he will find another quality that pleases him. She could be rude but at the same time religious, pretty, chaste, or kind to him, or the like. So, he approves of this good quality that suits him and, thus, faces what he dislikes about her with what he likes about her. In this way, what he likes of her good qualities will help him patiently endure what he dislikes of her bad qualities. So, he forgives the bad for the sake of the good and overlooks what he dislikes for the sake of what he likes. And in this way, he will not absolutely hate her to the extent that he breaks up with her.
The Hadīth encourages good treatment and companionship..