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It was narrated from Abu Mas‘ud that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “If a man spends on his family, seeking reward with Allah thereby, it will be an act of charity on his part.”.

Commentary : Spending in Allah’s cause is one of the best of righteous deeds, hence spending may take many forms, and the extent of spending should be properly worked out. Spending may vary according to one’s situation and circumstances. One of the best kinds of spending is spending on one’s wife, children and relatives, just as neglecting them is a grievous sin.
In this hadith, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) explains that if a man spends his wealth on his family – his wife, children and other relatives – for whose maintenance he is responsible and spending on them is obligatory upon him, intending that for the sake of Allah and seeking His pleasure, then whatever he spends, small or great, will be regarded by Allah as a righteous deed for which he will be granted the reward of charity. What man can attain a greater reward than a man who spends on his family so that by means of his help, Allah will enable them to maintain their dignity and make them independent of means? The hadith does not mean that this spending comes under the same rulings as charity; rather the reward for it will be like the reward of charity. And it was said that the wording may give the sense that the reward for spending [on one’s family] can only be attained if one has the intention of drawing closer to Allah thereby, whether it is obligatory or permissible, and that the one who does not intend to draw closer to Allah thereby will not be rewarded, but he will have fulfilled his duty of spending on those on whom he is obliged to spend. This hadith encourages us to have a good intention in all that we do, and draws attention to the fact that the intention in the heart is important in all cases, therefore faith and other acts of worship are included in that..

It was narrated from Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqas that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “You will never spend anything, seeking thereby the pleasure of Allah, but you will be rewarded for it, even [the food] that you put in your wife’s mouth.”.

Commentary : Having a good intention in every action is very important, and no act of Islamic worship is valid or will be accepted unless it is accompanied by a sound intention. Even ordinary actions, if they are accompanied by a good intention, will bring reward.
In this hadith, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him stated that reward is not limited to giving money in charity to others; rather whatever you spend on yourself, your family and others, if it is intended to seek the pleasure of Allah (may He be exalted), and is not done in order to show off or seek a good reputation, will bring reward. Whatever is intended for the sake of Allah will be rewarded, even if the doer feels some kind of pleasure and the like in doing it, such as putting a morsel of food into his wife’s mouth. That is something that is usually done for what one feels of pleasure, and if reward is assured in such a scenario, then reward will definitely be more appropriate when an action is done purely for the sake of Allah.
This hadith also indicates that a good intention turns an ordinary action into an act of worship, so the wise person should not do anything without intending to seek the pleasure of Allah (may He be exalted) thereby..

It was narrated that Jarir ibn ‘Abdillah said: I swore allegiance to the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), pledging to establish prayer, give zakah and be sincere to every Muslim..

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to accept the oath of allegiance (bay‘ah) from his companions when they became Muslim, to affirm their commitment to their faith, and to teach them the most important duties of Islam when they first became Muslim.
In this hadith, Jarir ibn ‘Abdillah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I swore allegiance to the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), pledging to do these things: to establish prayer, which is done by regularly offering the five daily prayers in the manner required, on time, with all their essential parts, obligatory actions and conditions. And [pledging to] give zakah, which is an obligatory, financial act of worship, to be given on every type of wealth that meets the minimum threshold, as defined in Islamic teachings, when one full lunar (or Hijri) year has passed since acquiring that wealth, giving one quarter of one tenth. One should also give zakah on an‘am animals [camels, cattle and sheep] and other livestock; zakah on crops, fruits, and trade goods; and zakah on rikaz, which is buried treasure that is brought out of the earth and, it was said, minerals and metals, on the basis of their nisab (minimum threshold), to be given at the time at which their zakah becomes due. Giving zakah in the proper manner to those who are entitled to it brings increased blessing (barakah) to wealth, and brings great reward in the hereafter, whereas being stingy and withholding it from those who are entitled to it brings bad consequences in this world and the hereafter. Zakah combines the rights of Allah and the rights of people, and it is an obligatory duty and one of the pillars of Islam. It is a means of meeting the needs of those who are in need.
He said: I also pledged to be sincere to every Muslim man and woman, by being keen to benefit them, helping them to attain all that is good and warding off from them all that is bad, in both word and deed. Muslims are mentioned in particular because this is what is usually the case [in a majority-Muslim society]. However, sincerity towards disbelievers also matters, which means calling them to Islam and offering sound and sincere advice if they ask for it.
And it was said that only prayer and zakah are mentioned here because all other financial and physical acts of worship stem from them, as they are the major financial and physical acts of worship. They are the most important pillars of Islam after uttering the words of the twin declaration of faith. Moreover, fasting comes under the heading of physical acts of worship, and the one who regularly and consistently offers the prayers is more likely to fast, whereas if someone fasts, he does not necessarily adhere to praying regularly. Hajj is a combination of both financial and physical acts of worship, so whoever prays and fasts is going to do Hajj, especially when it is required only once in a lifetime, unlike the prayer, for which there are set times every day and night, and zakah, which is to be given once every year, from wealth that reaches the minimum threshold (nisab).
The reason why the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) mentioned the issue of sincerity to Jarir (may Allah be pleased with him) in particular is that he was the chief and leader of his people. He came to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) in 10 AH and became Muslim, and his people followed him. So the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) advised him to be sincere because he had a greater need to do that.
This hadith indicates that it is obligatory to show sincerity towards the Muslims, to wish them well, to be keen to help them and to strive to benefit them..

It was narrated that Ziyad ibn ‘Ilaqah said: I heard Jarir ibn ‘Abdillah speak on the day al-Mughirah died. He stood up and praised and glorified Allah, and said: I urge you to fear Allah alone, with no partner or associate, and to be people of dignity and tranquility until a [new] governor comes to you, for he will come to you soon. Then he said: Pray for pardon for your governor, for he was a man who loved to pardon others. Then he said: To proceed (amma ba‘d): I came to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and said: Let me swear allegiance to you, pledging to follow Islam, and he stipulated that I should be sincere to all Muslims. So I swore allegiance to him on that basis. By the Lord of this mosque, I am sincere to you. Then he prayed for forgiveness and stepped down..

Commentary : Because of the importance and high status of sincerity in Islam, the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) stipulated it as a condition for those who came to swear allegiance to him, pledging to follow Islam, namely the noble Sahabah. Here we see Jarir ibn ‘Abdillah (may Allah be pleased with him) on the day al-Mughirah ibn Shu‘bah (may Allah be pleased with him) died, which occurred in 50 AH, when he was the governor of Kufah, during the caliphate of Mu‘awiyah (may Allah be pleased with him). Before he died, he appointed his son ‘Urwah as interim governor. It was also suggested that he appointed Jarir ibn ‘Abdillah as interim governor, which is why he delivered this speech after the death of al-Mughirah. So he praised and glorified Allah, and said: “I urge you to fear Allah alone, with no partner or associate, and to be people of dignity and tranquility.” He enjoined these things upon them because usually the death of governors may lead to upheaval and turmoil, especially as the people of Kufah at that time were known to be opposed to the authorities. Moreover he urged them to maintain dignity – which means mature thinking, wisdom and rationality – until a new governor came to take the place of their recently-deceased governor al-Mughirah. He told them that the new governor would come “soon” so as to make things easier for them, and that is indeed what happened, because when news of al-Mughirah’s death reached Mu‘awiyah (may Allah be pleased with him), he wrote to his governor in Basrah, Ziyad ibn Abi Sufyan, instructing him to go to Kufah and serve as its governor.
Then Jarir said to them: Pray for pardon for your governor; in other words, ask Allah (may He be exalted) to pardon him, for he loved to pardon the people’s misdemeanours, and the reward matches the nature of the deed. According to a report narrated by Ahmad, he said, “pray for forgiveness”, meaning: ask Allah to forgive him. Then Jarir (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated the story of how he swore allegiance to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). He said, “To proceed (amma ba‘d),” which is a word used when moving from one topic to another. What is meant is: I say, after opening with the shahadah and words praising Allah (may He be glorified and exalted): “I came to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah, let me swear allegiance to you, pledging to follow Islam” that is, promising to do that. The Arabic word translated here as pledging (bay‘ah) likens this action to a financial transaction, as if each party is giving something in return for what he takes from the other party. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) stipulated that he should be sincere to every Muslim man and woman, which means being keen to benefit them, helping them to attain all that is good and warding off from them all that is bad, in both word and deed. Muslims are mentioned in particular because this is what is usually the case [in a majority-Muslim society]. However, sincerity towards disbelievers also matters, which means calling them to Islam and offering sound and sincere advice if they ask for it. So Jarir swore allegiance on that basis. Then Jarir swore an oath to them, saying: By the Lord of this mosque, I am sincere to you. This is an indication that he fulfilled his pledge to the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), as he advised them to do what was in their best interests, swearing that his words were sincere and free of any ulterior motives.
Then he concluded his speech by asking Allah for forgiveness, and stepped down. This indicates that he delivered his speech from the minbar, or that he had been standing and sat down, because the beginning of the report says that he stood up and praised and glorified Allah.
This hadith indicates that it is obligatory to be sincere towards the Muslims.
It also indicates that a knowledgeable person may exhort people if he sees some development that he fears may cause trouble for them, and that he may encourage them to be united and in harmony, and to avoid dissent and division..

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: Whilst the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was in a gathering, addressing the people, a Bedouin came and said: When will the Hour be? The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) carried on talking, and some of the people thought: he heard him, but he did not like what he said. Others thought: Rather he did not hear him. Then when he had finished speaking, he said: “Where is the one who was asking about the Hour?” The man said: I am here, O Messenger of Allah. He said: “When trust is lost, then expect the Hour.” He said: How can trust be lost? He said: “When positions of authority are given to those who are not qualified for them, then expect the Hour.”.

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to teach the people about their religion and answer their questions, so as to make the truth clear to them and explain to them that which would benefit them both in this world and the hereafter, and some matters of the unseen of which Allah informed him.
In this hadith, Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was addressing his companions and teaching them. A Bedouin man – one of those who lived in the desert – came and asked: At what time will the Day of Resurrection begin? But the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) did not answer him straight away; rather he completed what he was saying to the people. This is an example of his good etiquette, as he did not interrupt what he was saying about the first topic until he had finished it and made sure that his listeners understood what he was saying. Some of the people thought that he did not like this question, and others thought that he had not heard what the Bedouin had said, and that was why he did not answer him. But when the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) had finished what he was saying, he turned towards the Bedouin and answered his question, saying that it would happen when trust was lost. Then he explained that by saying: “When positions of authority are given to those who are not qualified for them”, meaning: when people who are not religiously committed and are not honest take on positions of authority, and those who help them to commit wrongdoing and evil actions also take on such positions. In that case, the rulers will have neglected the trust which Allah enjoined upon them to the extent that one who is dishonest will be trusted, and one who is honest will be mistrusted. This can only happen when ignorance is prevalent and the people of truth fail to adhere to the truth. We ask Allah to keep us safe and sound.
This hadith indicates that one should be kind to one who asks a question, even if he is rough in his manner of asking or he behaves in an ignorant manner.
It also indicates that one should show care for questioners and seekers of knowledge, and show interest in them, and answer their questions.
It also indicates that one of the highest levels of honesty and trustworthiness is when qualified people are appointed to positions of authority, and failing to do that is failing to adhere to the trust.
And it indicates that the questioner may ask further questions of the knowledgeable person if he does not understand the answer..

It was narrated that ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) fell behind us on a journey, then he caught up with us when the time for prayer was almost over, and we were doing wudu’. We started to wipe over our feet, and he called out at the top of his voice: “Woe to the heels from the Fire!” two or three times..

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) would always check on his companions (may Allah be pleased with them), especially with regard to their acts of worship, in order to teach them and advise them.
In this hadith, ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) fell behind his companions on a journey, as he would usually travel behind them so as to urge those who had fallen behind to keep up, and to be with those who were physically weak. When the time for prayer came, they would halt to pray, then the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) would come and lead them in prayer. They delayed the prayer from the beginning of its time, hoping that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) would catch up with them and pray with them. When not much time was left for the prayer, they hastened to do wudu’, and because they were in such a hurry, they did not do it properly and did not make the water reach every spot of the parts that were to be washed. They washed their feet too quickly, to the extent that it looked as if they were just wiping them. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) caught up with them when they were doing that, so he rebuked them for what he saw them doing, and called out in a loud voice so that everyone could hear, “Woe to the heels from the Fire!” This is a stern warning for the one who does not wash properly the parts that are to be washed in wudu’, and it is urging them to do it properly and perfectly, giving each part its due share of the water. “Woe (wayl)” is a word that signifies punishment and doom. The heel is the part of the foot that touches the ground and extends from the back of the foot to the place where a sandal strap is tied (around the ankle). The heels are singled out for mention because that is the spot where water is least likely to reach when one is not paying attention.
This hadith indicates that one should teach and advise the one who is ignorant.
It indicates that one of the basic guidelines when teaching in Islam is to repeat a sentence two or three times so that the seeker of knowledge will understand it.
It also indicates that the knowledgeable person may denounce what he sees of people neglecting of obligatory duties and Sunnahs, and he may speak harshly and raise his voice when denouncing that.
The hadith also indicates that it is encouraged to check the places that water does not usually reach when doing wudu’, such as the heels, and warn the one who does not do wudu’ properly.
It also indicates that the body may be punished; this is the view of Ahl al-Sunnah wal Jama‘ah..

It was narrated that Ibn ‘Umar said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Among trees, there is one tree whose leaves do not fall, and it is like the Muslim. Tell me what it is.” The people started listing the trees of the desert. ‘Abdullah said: It occurred to me that it was the palm tree, but I felt too shy to say anything. Then they said: Tell us what it is, O Messenger of Allah. He said: “It is the palm tree.”.

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was a wise teacher and great educator. He used to give likenesses to the people to explain some ideas.
In this hadith, ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) asked his companions about the tree whose leaves do not fall, which he likened to the Muslim. They started to think only about trees of the desert, each of them listing different types of desert trees, but the palm tree completely slipped their minds. Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) thought to himself that it was the palm tree, but he was too shy to mention what he had in mind, out of respect for the senior Sahabah present, who could not give the right answer. So the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) gave them the answer, telling them that it was the palm tree. The palm tree is like the Muslim in the sense that it has a great deal of goodness, it constantly offers shade (because it does not lose its leaves), it bears good fruit, and it offers many other benefits. It is full of benefits, goodness and beauty. Similarly, the believer is all good because he does many acts of worship, has good characteristics, and persists in doing righteous deeds, giving charity and doing all kinds of good deeds. So it is as if he never stops doing good, so he constantly does good deeds just as the leaves of the palm tree are always there, then it gives fruits at the right time.
In this hadith we see that a knowledgeable person may ask a question of those who want to learn, in order to see how much they understand.
This hadith also highlights the intelligence of ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him).
It also highlights the virtue of the palm tree and how it is like the Muslim. .

It was narrated that Anas ibn Malik said: Whilst we were sitting with the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) in the mosque, a man came in on a camel. He made the camel kneel down in the mosque, then he hobbled it, then he said to them: Which of you is Muhammad? The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was reclining amongst them, and we said: He is this fair-skinned man who is reclining. The man said to him: O son of ‘Abdul Muttalib. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “I hear you.” The man said to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): I am going to ask you some questions, and may seem harsh, so do not get angry with me. He said: “Ask whatever you want.” The man said: I ask you by your Lord and the Lord of those who came before you, has He sent you to all people? He said: “By Allah, yes.” The man said: I adjure you by Allah, has Allah commanded you that we should offer five prayers every day and night? He said: “By Allah, yes.” The man said: I adjure you by Allah, has Allah commanded you that we should fast during this month of the year? He said: “By Allah, yes.” The man said: I adjure you by Allah, has Allah commanded you to take this charity [zakah] from our rich and distribute it among our poor? The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “By Allah, yes.” The man said: I believe in what you have brought, and I am an envoy of my people whom I left behind. I am Dimam ibn Tha‘labah, a man of Banu Sa‘d ibn Bakr. .

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was the most humble of people. People would come to him and ask him about the teachings of Islam, and he would teach them and answer their questions as appropriate to their circumstances, until the matter became clear in their minds.
In this hadith, Anas ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that Dimam ibn Tha‘labah (may Allah be pleased with him) – who was the chief of his people, Banu Sa‘d ibn Bakr – came to Madinah to meet the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and ask him about the pillars of Islam so that he could teach his people after he went back. He came in and found the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and his companions in the mosque. Dimam was riding a camel, and he made it kneel on the ground in the mosque, then he tied it so that it would not move. Then he said to them: Which of you is Muhammad? The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was reclining on a mat of his in the midst of the people, because he was so humble. The Sahabah (may Allah be pleased with them) told Dimam that the fair-skinned man who was reclining on the mat was the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), so Dimam called out to him: O son of ‘Abdul Muttalib, naming him after his grandfather. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to him: “I hear you”; in other words, ask me your questions so that I can answer you. He only answered in this abrupt manner because the man had not paid any attention to what was required of him, which was to show respect and be well-mannered, when he brought his camel into the mosque and asked “Which of you is Muhammad?”, and addressed him as son of ‘Abdul Muttalib. Then Dimam said: I am going to ask you some questions, and may seem harsh, so do not get upset or be angry with me. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Ask whatever you want”, meaning ask whatever comes to your mind. Dimam said: I ask you by your Lord and the Lord of those who came before you, has He sent you to all people? The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) replied: “By Allah, yes”, Allah has indeed sent me as a bringer of glad tidings and a warner to all people. Then Dimam adjured the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) by Allah (may He be glorified in exalted), reminding him of Allah, to answer him: has Allah enjoined upon His slaves to offer the obligatory prayers, fast Ramadan, and to collect the obligatory zakah, taking this charity from the rich and giving it to the poor? The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) answered by saying, “By Allah, yes.” At this point, Dimam hastened to declare his belief and become a Muslim. In fact, he told the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) that he would call all his people to Islam. Then he introduced himself to the Prophet, telling him that he was Dimam ibn Tha‘labah, a man of Banu Sa‘d ibn Bakr, among whom the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) had been breast-fed.
In this hadith, we see that a man may be identified by his physical characteristics, such as whether he is fair-skinned or dark-skinned, tall or short, because the Sahabah said: We said: He is this fair-skinned man.
It also highlights the humility of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), and how he sat among his companions, and none of them stood whilst he was sitting, as the non-Arabs used to do unnecessarily.
The hadith also indicates that a person may give an apology and seek forgiveness before speaking, so that what he says will be well received by the one to whom he is speaking..

It was narrated from ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Abbas that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) sent a letter to a man and instructed him to give it to the ruler of Bahrain. Then the ruler of Bahrain gave it to Khusraw. When he read it he tore it up, and I think that Ibn al-Musayyib said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) prayed against them, praying that they would be torn to pieces..

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to send letters to the kings and rulers of the earth at his time, calling them to Islam, in the hope that they would accept guidance and so that their people would be guided through them, without war. In this hadith, ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Abbas narrates that our Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) sent his letter with a man, namely ‘Abdullah ibn Hudhafah, and instructed him to give it to the ruler of Bahrain. The ruler or governor of Bahrain at that time was al-Mundhir ibn Sawi. Bahrain was a kingdom between Basrah and Oman which belonged to the Persian Empire. The ruler of Bahrain sent the letter to Khusraw, whose name was Pervez son of Hormuz. He read the letter, then he tore it up. When the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) came to know of that, he prayed against them, praying that Allah would tear them to pieces and cause them to be scattered, putting an end to their kingdom. Allah answered the prayer of His Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). Only a few years later, the power of the Persians diminished completely throughout the land, and collapsed by virtue of the prayer of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), and a final end was put to it during the caliphate of ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him).
In this hadith, we see that we may call people to Islam verbally and in writing, and that writing may take the place of speaking.
This hadith is also one of the signs of the truthfulness of the prophethood of our Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)..

It was narrated that Anas ibn Malik said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him wrote a letter – or he wanted to write a letter – but he was told: They do not read any letter unless it is sealed. So he had a ring of silver made, engraved with the words Muhammad Rasulullah (Muhammad the Messenger of Allah). It is as if I can see it gleaming on his hand. I said to Qatadah: Who said that it was engraved with the words Muhammad Rasulullah? He said: Anas..

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to write letters to the rulers of the earth at his time, calling them to enter Islam, in the hope that they would accept guidance and their people would be guided through them, without war. But they had some traditions with regard to correspondence.
In this hadith, Anas ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that our Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) wanted to send a letter to one of the Persian rulers, or to the Byzantines, as it says in the report of al-Bukhari. But his companions told him that kings would not read any letters except those that had a seal bearing the signature of the sender. What is meant is a wax seal that was stamped with a name or a symbol that the sender had adopted for himself to seal and verify his letters. They would not read any letter unless it was sealed, for fear that their secrets might become known and their plans might be broadcast, and so as to be certain that the written contents had not been altered. So the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) acquired a ring of silver, because silver is not prohibited for men, and it may be worn on the hand, and he had it engraved with the second part of the shahadah: Muhammad Rasulullah (Muhammad [is] the Messenger of Allah).
Then Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) stated that he used to look at the gleaming of the Prophet’s ring when it was worn on his hand. This hadith narrates how fresh this image of the ring and the Prophet’s wearing of it still was in his mind.
From this hadith, we also learn that rulers, judges and governors may use seals on letters, and this is a tradition that is still practised.
The hadith also indicates that it is prescribed to write to the disbelievers in ways that serve the interests of Islam and the Muslims.
It also indicates that it is prescribed to engrave rings and to inscribe the name of the owner on the ring..

It was narrated from Abu Waqid al-Laythi that whilst the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was sitting in the mosque, and the people were with him, three men came along. Two of them came towards the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), and one went away. They stood before the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). One of them saw a gap in the circle, so he sat down there, and the other one sat behind the people. As for the third, he turned and left. When the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) had finished speaking, he said: “Shall I not tell you about these three people? As for the first one, he turned to Allah so Allah granted him refuge. As for the second one, he felt too shy, so Allah felt shy of him. As for the last one, he turned away, so Allah turned away from him.”.

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was the best educator. He used to teach his companions on the basis of situations that happened to them, using them as examples to explain to them the path of guidance, and to show them the way to that which is in their best interests in this world and the hereafter.
In this hadith, Abu Waqid al-Laythi (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was sitting with his companions in the mosque, when three men came along. As for the first one, he found space in the circle, so he sat in it. As for the second one, he sat behind the circle, as if he was too shy to push his way in and make it difficult for the people. As for the third, he turned away and left, and did not join the circle. When the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) finished what he was talking about, teaching the Qur’an, Islamic knowledge and so on, he said: Shall I not tell you about these people? As for one of them, he turned to Allah, so Allah granted him refuge. He is the one who sat in the gap, because he was sincere and eager to sit with the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), so Allah made it easy for him and provided space for him in the gathering of His Prophet. It was also said that was meant is that Allah caused him to be close to where His Prophet was sitting, and it was said that what was meant is that He will grant him refuge in the shade of His Throne.
As for the second man, he felt too shy, so he did not push his way in, out of shyness before the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and his companions, or he sat down because he was too shy to leave the circle of knowledge. So Allah felt shy of him, because he did not push in or put himself forward.
As for the third man, he turned away and left the gathering of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), so Allah turned away from him and did not inspire him to sit with those righteous people.
This hadith affirms the attribute of haya’ (shyness) for Allah, but it is not like the shyness of people; rather it is shyness in a perfect sense, as is befitting for Allah (may He be glorified and exalted).
This hadith also indicates that whoever seeks knowledge and gatherings of knowledge, then turns away from them, Allah will turn away from him, and if Allah turns away from someone, that person has exposed himself to His wrath. We ask Allah to keep us safe and sound.
It also indicates that part of good manners is to sit wherever one finds space, and not to make someone else get up and move.
The report also indicates that a knowledgeable person may teach the people who are sitting with him about issues of knowledge, before anyone asks about those issues.
It also indicates that shyness is a praiseworthy characteristic.
And it indicates that the one who shows no interest in knowledge is worthy of criticism, because no one is deprived of knowledge of the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and still has any goodness in him..

It was narrated from ‘Abdur Rahman ibn Abi Bakrah that his father spoke about the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) sitting atop his camel, with another man holding the camel’s reins. He said: “What day is this?” We remained quiet until we thought that he would give it a different name. Then he said: “Is it not the Day of Sacrifice?” We said: Yes indeed. Then he said: “What month is this?” We remained quiet until we thought that he would give it a different name. Then he said: “Is it not Dhul Hijjah?” We said: Yes indeed. He said: “Your blood, your wealth and your honour are sacred to one another, as sacred as this day of yours, in this month of yours, in this land of yours. Let those who are present convey it to those who are absent, for perhaps one who is present will convey it to someone who understands it better than him.”.

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) did Hajj only once, which was the Farewell Pilgrimage, during which he addressed his companions, advising them about some things which are fundamental principles of Islamic teaching, including what is mentioned in this hadith. Abu Bakrah al-Ansari (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) addressed the people on the Day of Sacrifice, which is the tenth day of Dhul Hijjah; this day is also Eid al-Adha (Feast of Sacrifice). He was sitting atop his camel, and there was a man holding onto the reins of his she-camel; this refers to a rope tied to a ring in the nose of the camel, so that it may be led easily. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to his companions: “What day is this?” They remained silent until they thought that he was going to change its name, because its name was well-known to all. This is also an example of their good manners with their Prophet. It also indicates that major issues should be referred to the Lawgiver. Then the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Is it not the Day of Sacrifice?” It is so called because of what occurs on that day of the slaughter of sacrificial animals (hadiy and udhiyah). They said: Yes indeed. Then he said: “What month is this?” They again remained silent, because they thought that he was going to change the name that they knew. Then he said: “Is it not Dhul Hijjah?” So they said: Yes indeed. He asked them these two questions, then remained silent after each question, to make them focus and pay full attention to his words, and so that they would realize that what he was going to tell them was something of great importance. Hence he told them that the prohibition on transgressing against one another’s wealth and honour, and the sanctity of those things, was equivalent to the sanctity of the Day of Sacrifice, the sacred month, and Makkah al-Mukarramah. This was to emphasize how serious these matters are (and how great a sin it is to transgress against fellow Muslims). Then he instructed those who were present to convey what he said to those who were absent, for perhaps one who was absent would understand better than the one who heard it and conveyed it.
This hadith indicates that it is prescribed to convey and narrate hadiths, and highlights the virtue of this knowledge and its people.
It indicates that learning about hadith is one thing and understanding hadith is something else. The narrator may narrate a hadith to someone who understands it better than him, and the narrator may not understand it fully.
It indicates that it is permissible to sit on an animal’s back whilst it is standing still, if there is a need to do that.
It also indicates that speeches should be delivered from a high place, because that is more effective in letting the people hear and see the speaker..

It was narrated that Ibn Mas‘ud said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to choose the appropriate day and time to exhort us, for fear that we would become bored..

Commentary : The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was the best in teaching and educating his companions. He used to teach them through his words and actions, and the noble Sahabah would describe his style and way of preaching.
In this hadith, ‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ud (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was very keen that his companions should benefit and learn from his preaching and exhortation, he did not do that with them very often. Rather he would choose some days to exhort them, and not do that on other days; he would also choose an appropriate time when he thought that they would be more receptive to his teaching. He used to limit that to appropriate times, for fear that they would get bored and tired of it, which would lead to them finding his exhortation burdensome, then they would resent it and be put off by it, in which case it would not be as effective as hoped.
This hadith highlights the kindness of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and his compassion towards his ummah, and how he took measures to ensure that they would receive his exhortation with energy and eagerness, without becoming bored or tired. .

It was narrated from Anas ibn Malik that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Make things easy and do not make things difficult; give glad tidings and do not put people off.”.

Commentary : Islam is a religion of moderation, which came to make things easy for people, not to burden them with what they cannot bear and are not able to do. Islam warns against overburdening oneself and going to extremes.
In this hadith, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) enjoined two things and forbade their opposites. He enjoined making things easy and he forbade the opposite of that, which is making things difficult. Whoever makes things easy for a Muslim in any of his worldly affairs, such as transactions and interactions with others, or in any of his religious affairs, such as acts of worship, or in anything so long as it is within the framework of what is right and proper, and does not go beyond that, then Allah (may He be exalted) will make things easy for him. In this regard, it is sufficient to note that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), who was the leader of humanity and the most able to obey and worship Allah, was never given the choice between two things but he would choose the easier option, so long as it was not haram.
The second thing he enjoined was giving glad tidings and saying good things; this is the opposite of warning, which means giving bad news and going to extremes in alerting and scaring people, which could be off-putting. What is meant by the words “give glad tidings and do not put people off” is: Give the people – or the believers – glad tidings of the grace and reward of Allah, His immense generosity and His vast mercy, and do not put them off by speaking in such a way as to scare them and warn them. So with those who are new in Islam, it is more appropriate to be gentle with them and not be too strict with them. The same applies to young people who are approaching adolescence, and adults who have repented from sin. A gentle approach should be used with them all, and acts of worship should be introduced to them step-by-step, just as the rulings of Islam were introduced and enjoined gradually. That is because if a gentle approach is used with one who wants to start practising Islam or become a Muslim, it will become easy for him, and in most cases he will show more commitment and do more good deeds. But if it is made difficult for him from the outset, he may not commit himself to it, and if he does start, he may soon give up and find that he is no longer able to do it.
This is a lesson and a guideline for those who seek to call people to Islam, and those who are in charge of religious affairs: they should use an approach that is easy, giving glad tidings and offering encouragement, whether by referring to the beauties of Islam and what could motivate and encourage people, or speaking of what is with Allah (may He be glorified and exalted) in the hereafter of gardens of bliss.
In this hadith, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) referred to the blessings of both this world and the hereafter, because this world is the realm of striving and the hereafter is the realm of requital. So with regard to worldly matters he enjoined making things easy, and with regard to the hereafter, he enjoined speaking of the promise of good things and glad tidings, to confirm that he was indeed a mercy to the worlds in both realms. .

Humayd ibn ‘Abdur Rahman said: I heard Mu‘awiyah delivering a speech and saying: I heard the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) say: “When Allah wills good for someone, He grants him understanding of religion. I am simply sharing out something that Allah gives me. This ummah will continue to adhere to the command of Allah and those who oppose them will not harm them, until the decree of Allah comes to pass.”.

Commentary : Allah (may He be glorified and exalted) is forbearing and most merciful to His slaves, and He loves good for them. In this hadith, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) tells us that when Allah wills much good and great benefit for a person, He grants him understanding of religion, so He bestows upon him Islamic knowledge. There is nothing better than that in this world in terms of virtue, honour and high status, because it is the legacy of the Prophets who did not leave any other legacy. The word khayran (translated here as good) appears in the indefinite form in the original Arabic, to indicate that it includes all types of good, small and great. The use of the indefinite may also indicate how great and important a thing is, and that fits the context here.
Then the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) tells us that the true giver is Allah (may He be exalted). It is as if he is saying: I am not the giver; I am simply sharing out what I have been commanded to share out, in accordance with the way that I have been instructed to do it. All things are subject to the will and decree of Allah (may He be exalted); human beings are controlled and their affairs are directed by their Lord. All wealth belongs to Allah (may He be exalted) and all people belong to Him; the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) shares out His wealth among them, so whoever receives a large share from him, that is by the decree of Allah (may He be exalted) and is what is already decreed for him, and the same applies to the one who receives a small share. No one will have more provision than is already decreed for him, just as no one’s lifespan can be extended. The reason why the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said that was to console the people and soften their hearts, because he used to give more to some people than others.
Then the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) stated that a group of Muslims would remain steadfast in adhering to his religion until the onset of the Hour. It was said that their steadfastness in religion would be manifested in their adhering to jihad and fighting to support the truth and make the word of Allah (may He be glorified and exalted) supreme, until the decree of Allah comes to pass; what is meant by His decree here is the pleasant breeze that will come before the onset of the Hour and take the souls of the believers, as was explained in some reports. This indicates that the truth will never disappear among the ummah for there are people who will inherit it, generation after generation.
This hadith highlights the virtue of knowledge and the virtue of learning, for Islamic knowledge is the noblest of all branches of knowledge, because it is connected to Allah (may He be glorified and exalted).
It indicates that understanding of religion is one of the signs that the Muslim is good.
It also indicates that Islam will not be defeated, no matter how numerous its enemies become.
This hadith is also one of the signs of prophethood..

1441

Abu ad-Dardā’ reported: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) came across a woman in the advanced stage of pregnancy at the door of a tent, and he said: "Perhaps he wants to copulate with her." They said: 'Yes.' Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I resolved to curse him with a curse that would enter his grave with him. How would he be his heir while this is not lawful for him?! And how would he employ him while this is not lawful for him?!".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) used to forbid his Companions from unlawful things and all that Allah, the Exalted and Glorified, prohibited. He would sometimes do so by encouraging them to obtain the reward with Allah Almighty and other times by intimidating them from the penalty and punishment of Allah.
In this Hadīth, Abu ad-Dardā’ (may Allah be pleased with him) informs that while the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was on a journey, he passed by a woman in the advanced stage of pregnancy. She was one of the captives and was sitting at the door of a tent. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Perhaps he", meaning her owner and master who obtained her as his share of the captives. "wants to copulate with her" i.e., wants to engage in sexual intercourse with her. However, it is not lawful for the master of a pregnant captive to copulate with her until she gives birth. Then, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said that he resolved and intended to supplicate against him to be turned away from Allah's mercy and for that to continue after his death. He (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) intended to curse him because he failed to ascertain the emptiness of her womb, for if he copulates with his captive whom he owns while she is pregnant from someone else, he is thus neglecting to ascertain the emptiness of her womb. However, the cursing did not take place because this man was not aware of the ruling.
His words: "How would he be his heir while this is not lawful for him" means that this slave-girl captive may give birth after six months, and thus, the baby is likely from this captor, and it is likely from someone before him. So, if he is from the captor, then he is his child, and they may inherit from each other; and if he is from someone else, then he and the captor may not inherit from each other, given the lack of blood relationship.
Then, he said: "And how would he employ him," i.e., the child? If he employs him as a slave, it is probable that he came from him, and thus, he will be enslaving his child and cutting off his own lineage, and for this, he will be worthy of cursing. And if he attributes the baby to himself as his child, it is likely that he did not come from him, and thus he will be making him his heir, whereas he is not his heir, and for this, he will be worthy of cursing.
The Hadīth indicates that captivity nullifies previous ownership and dissolves marriage.
It also indicates that when there is a new owner of a female slave, it becomes due to ascertain the emptiness of her womb. So, he may not copulate with her until her womb is verified to be empty of pregnancy.
It also points out that it is forbidden to copulate with a pregnant captive until she gives birth..

1442

Judāmah bint Wahb - sister of ‘Ukkāshah - reported: I was there when the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to some people: "I was about to forbid Ghīlah (sexual intercourse during the breastfeeding period), so I considered that the Romans and the Persians do it without any harm done to their children thereby." Then they asked him about coitus interruptus, and the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "That is the hidden Wa’d (burying a child alive).".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was keen on benefiting the believers and showed sympathy and concern for them. He left nothing that could be of benefit to them without guiding them to it and ordering them to do it. However, he used to correct the lies and suspicions that were spread among people and inherited from the pre-Islamic era of ignorance out of guidance and politeness.
In this Hadīth, the female Companion Judāmah al-Asadiyyah bint Wahb (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates that she attended with the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) an assembly that had some of his Companions (may Allah be pleased with them). The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I was about to," i.e., I was determined to forbid "Ghīlah", which is having intercourse with one's wife during her breastfeeding period, or a woman's conception during the breastfeeding period. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was determined to forbid it because there was a popular belief at that time that it was harmful to the infant. They used to say that if the breastfeeding woman had sexual intercourse with her husband and conceived during her breastfeeding period, her milk would be spoilt and the child would get weak if he fed on it, and the Arabs would hate and avoid him. However, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) saw that the Romans and the Persians - two great kingdoms at that time - did this without worrying about it, besides the fact that it did not cause their children any harm; so, he did not forbid it.
Then, the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) asked him about the ruling on coitus interruptus, which means removing the man's penis from the woman's vagina before ejaculation and ejaculating outside the vagina to avoid conception. The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "That is the hidden Wa’d," considering the coitus interruptus hidden burial of a child alive because it entails wasting the sperm that Allah Almighty has prepared to be a child. So, it resembles killing a child by burying him alive. However, there is no doubt that it is less grave, and this is why he said it is hidden.
In the Two Sahīh Collections, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to those who asked him about the coitus interruptus: "It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Judgment will be born," i.e., no soul to exist in the knowledge of Allah Almighty except that it will come to exist, whether the coitus interruptus is done or not. Despite the coitus interruptus, there could be a small amount of semen ejaculated which Allah destined to form a child, and on the other hand, there could be normal ejaculation without conception. In short, coitus interruptus or normal ejaculation are equal as both do not lead to having a child except by Allah's decree..

1443

‘Āmir ibn Sa‘d reported: that Usāmah ibn Zayd informed his father Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqās that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "I practice coitus interruptus with my wife." The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to him: "Why do you do that?" The man said: "I fear for her child - or for her children." Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If this was harmful, it would harm the Persians and the Romans." [In a version]: "If it was for that, then no. This does not harm the Persians or the Romans.".

Commentary : Islam is keen on the safety of Muslims and has guided them to what presents good care of children. This includes the exhortation to provide good suckling.
In this Hadīth, Usāmah ibn Zayd (may Allah be pleased with him) relates that a man came to the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "I practice coitus interruptus with my wife." Coitus interruptus is practiced by removing the male sex organ out of the woman's vulva before ejaculation, and the man ejaculates outside the vulva, to prevent pregnancy. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) asked him: For what reason do you do this act? The man said: "I fear for her child", who suckles from her. This is because if she gets pregnant, her milk will be spoiled, and the body of the baby will become unsound and weak. Or he meant the famous notion among the Arabs that copulation damages milk and that such milk will be a malady and if the baby drinks it, he will become ill. So, he feared that he would be thin and unwell. Thereupon, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to him: "If this was harmful" - copulation or pregnancy during the period of suckling - "it would harm the Persians and the Romans", for the women of the Persians and the Romans suckle their babies while they are pregnant. So, if pregnancy or copulation during the period of suckling was harmful, it would harm their children. But the reality belies that, as they do not care to avoid this matter and their children are in good condition, and you are like them in this regard..

1451

’Umm al-Fadl reported: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "One suckling or two or one sucking or two does not make marriage unlawful." [In a version]: (and) instead of (or)..

Commentary : Islam has made suckling a bond like blood relation, and it has established the unlawfulness of marriage by suckling like the unlawfulness of marriage due to blood relations. It has forbidden a man from marrying his sister, mother, maternal aunt, or paternal aunt by suckling, and so on.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) informs about the amount that does not establish the ruling on suckling that makes marriage unlawful. He says: "One suckling or two or one sucking or two does not make marriage unlawful." This was said in response to someone who asked about one suckling and two. So, he replied that they do not make marriage unlawful, whether this suckling happens before the completion of two years or beyond that. The amount that makes marriage unlawful is five sucklings taken before the completion of two years. In a Hadīth by Muslim, ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: "In what was sent down in the Qur’an was ten known sucklings that make (marriage) unlawful. Afterwards, they were abrogated by five known ones. Then the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) passed away while they were part of what was recited in the Qur’an." And ’Umm Salamah reported: The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The only suckling which makes marriage unlawful is what is taken from the breast and enters the bowels and is taken before the time of weaning." Narrated by At-Tirmidhi..

1452

‘Ā’ishah reported: It was revealed in the Qur’an that: ten times of known breastfeeding prohibits (marriage); then it was abrogated and replaced with five times of known (breastfeeding). The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) died while these (words of the abrogating verse) were still being recited as part of the Qur’an..

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) clarified for his Ummah all that is lawful and unlawful including the rulings of breastfeeding and the consequent rulings related to lineages.
In this Hadīth, the Mother of the Believers ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reports the amount that used to establish the ruling of breastfeeding, that makes marriage prohibited at first, whereby the woman becomes prohibited for the man to marry the same, as it is prohibited for him by consanguinity (being descended by the same ancestor). She (may Allah be pleased with her) reported that it was first revealed in the Qur’an that ten times of known breastfeeding prohibits marriage. Then, this number was abrogated, and it became five times of known breastfeeding, i.e., known and satiating during the two years of infancy. In At-Tirmidhi's Collection, ’Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) reported: The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "No prohibition results from breastfeeding, except for what penetrates the intestines from the breast before weaning." So, breastfeeding after two full years does not prohibit anything, as Allah Almighty says: {Mothers may breastfeed their children for two full years, for those who wish to complete the full term of breastfeeding.} [Surat al-Baqarah: 233] Abrogation in the Qur’an has three types: First: What is abrogated in terms of ruling and recitation. Second: That which is abrogated in terms of recitation apart from its ruling. Third: That which is abrogated in terms of ruling apart from its recitation. The first two types of abrogation are found in this Hadīth. (Ten times of known breastfeeding prohibits) was abrogated both in terms of ruling and recitation, whereas the five times of breastfeeding was abrogated in terms of recitation only and its ruling has remained.
The statement of ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her): "The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) died while these (words of the abrogating verse) were still being recited as part of the Qur’an" meaning: The abrogation by the five times of breastfeeding was revealed at a very late stage to the extent that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) died while some people were still reciting the part of the five times of breastfeeding as part of the Qur’an because of not being aware of that recent abrogation. Later, when they learned about the abrogation, they stopped reciting it and unanimously agreed that it should not be recited..

1453

Zaynab bint Abi Salamah reported: I heard' Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, say to 'Ā’ishah: By Allah, I do not feel comfortable to be seen by a boy who has passed the age of suckling. She said: Why? Sahlah bint Suhayl came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, by Allah, I see (displeasure) on the face of Abu Hudhayfah because of Sālim entering." She said: Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Suckle him." She said: "He has a beard." He said: "Suckle him, and what is on the face of Abu Hudhayfah will go away." She said: "By Allah, I did not see it on the face of Abu Hudhayfah.".

Commentary : In this Hadīth, Zaynab bint Abi Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) informs that she heard her mother' Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, swearing to 'Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and saying: "By Allah, I do not feel comfortable" i.e., I do not like it; "to be seen by a boy" from non-Mahram (unrelated) males "who has passed the age of suckling" i.e., he is no longer in need of suckling. Thereupon, ‘Ā’ishah said to ’Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with both of them): "Why?" i.e., why are you saying this, whereas there is nothing wrong with that if you suckle him or he is suckled by someone who makes him a Mahram (related and non-marriageable) to you? This is evidenced by the fact that "Sahlah bint Suhayl", the wife of Abu Hudhayfah, came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and swore to him that she would see dislike on the face of Abu Hudhayfah because of their foster son Sālim continuing to enter the house as he would usually do when he was young, and he now reached adulthood - particularly after verses had been revealed prohibiting adoption. Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Suckle him" to be your son by suckling. She said to him: "He has a beard" for he is an adult man. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Suckle him and what is on the face of Abu Hudhayfah will go away" i.e., the sign of dislike will vanish from him. Sahlah did so and then she swore that she did not find the sign of dislike on the face of Abu Hudhayfah after she had suckled him.
This Hadīth is problematic in terms of explaining it and deriving rulings therefrom, and difference of opinion actually arose over it among the Prophet's wives. ’Umm Salamah and some of the Prophet's wives believed that this was a dispensation from the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) to the wife of Abu Hudhayfah alone, and they held that there should be no suckling for adults and that the suckling that makes a person a Mahram is the one provided in young age and which grows the bones and builds the body and flesh.
As for ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), she - as reported here - held that suckling causes prohibition of the same things made prohibited by blood relations, whether the suckled one is a child or an adult. She cited as evidence the story of Sālim, the freed slave of Abu Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with both of them) and that the ruling is not exclusively restricted to them.
What appears to be right - and Allah knows best - is that suckling of adults does not count, has no effect, and causes no prohibition, and that true suckling is that which occurs during babyhood; and what happened in the story of Sālim is particularly restricted to him and does not apply to anyone other than him. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) affirmed that not every suckling causes prohibition. In a Hadīth in the Two Sahīh Collections, he said: "Indeed, suckling is from hunger" i.e., the suckling that counts is the one that occurs at the time when milk is relied upon for food and in the amounts that affect the growth of the baby's body.
The Hadīth points out that suckling causes prohibition of the same things made prohibited by blood relations.
It demonstrates that there is a difference of opinion regarding the suckling of adults and its resultant effects..

1454

Zaynab bint Abi Salamah reported that her mother ’Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, reported: The other wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) refused to let anyone privately enter their houses by such suckling. They said to ‘Ā’ishah: "By Allah, we do not see this except as a dispensation which the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave to Sālim in particular. No one would enter our houses or see us by such suckling.".

Commentary : The Hadīth addresses an incident that took place during the Prophet's lifetime, namely suckling an adult, which means suckling a person after the age of two years and the time of weaning, and beyond, so that he can be Mahram - like suckling in the age of suckling. ’Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, informs that all the wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) refused to let anyone privately enter their houses by such suckling that is given to a person after the age of weaning, for they were commanded to observe Hijab. An exception was ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), who held the view that such suckling makes marriage unlawful like suckling during babyhood. They swore to ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and said: "By Allah, we do not see this except as a dispensation which the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave to Sālim", the freed slave of Abu Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him), "in particular"; not generally for everyone. Therefore, we will not let anyone enter our houses or see us by such suckling.
The dispensation which the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave to Sālim in particular is mentioned in a Hadīth narrated by Muslim in his Sahīh Collection, in which ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reported: that Sālim, the freed slave of Abu Hudhayfah, was with Abu Hudhayfah and his family in their house. His wife Sahlah the daughter of Suhayl came to the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "Sālim has reached the age of manhood and understands what men understand. He enters our house, and I think that Abu Hudhayfah is not comfortable with that." Thereupon, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Suckle him and what Abu Hudhayfah feels will go away." She returned and said: "Indeed, I suckled him, and what Abu Hudhayfah felt went away."
It is reported in a Hadīth narrated by Abu Dāwūd that ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) would ask the daughters of her sisters and brothers to suckle whomever she liked to enter her house - even if he was an adult - five times, and then he would enter her house. However, ’Umm Salamah and the other wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) refused to let anyone enter their houses by such suckling unless the suckling occurred in the cradle. Hence, the statements and attitudes of other wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) constituted evidence that the suckling of an adult does not count, has no weight, and does not establish the unlawfulness of marriage; and that true suckling happens in babyhood, and what happened in the story of Sālim is an exceptional peculiarity that was limited to him and does not apply to anyone else. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) emphasized that not every suckling makes marriage unlawful. In a Hadīth in the Two Sahīh Collections, he said: "Indeed, suckling is from hunger" i.e., the suckling that counts is the one that occurs at the time when milk is relied upon for food and in the amounts that affect the growth of the baby's body..

1456

Abu Sa‘īd al-Khudri reported: that at the battle of Hunayn, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) sent an army to Awtās. They encountered an enemy, fought, attained victory over them, and took female captives from them. Some of the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon them) seemed to have refrained from having intercourse with them, as they had husbands among the polytheists. So, Allah Almighty revealed in this regard: {Also [prohibited are] married women except for female slaves you may own} [Surat an-Nisā': 24], i.e., they are lawful for you when their waiting periods come to an end..

Commentary : The Shariah regulated the religious rulings regarding times of peace and war. Since war results in captives from the men of the enemy and their women, the Qur’an and the Sunnah clarified the rulings concerning them. It prohibited copulation with pregnant and married female captives until they gave birth or until non-pregnant captives were verified to be non-pregnant by having menses.
In this Hadīth, Abu Sa‘īd al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) informs that during the battle of Hunayn - which took place in the eighth Hijri year, after the Conquest of Makkah, between the Muslims and the people of Tā’if among the two tribes of Hawāzin and Thaqīf, in a valley called Hunayn, which is situated between Makkah and Tā’if; as the disbelievers had gone out with their property, women, and children; and after Hawāzin and Thaqīf were defeated and Allah granted victory to His Prophet and the Muslims, the fleeing disbelievers withdrew to the valley of Awtās, which is close to Hunayn - the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) sent an army to them, and they encountered an enemy from the disbelievers, whom they fought, overcame, and defeated. Among their spoils were captives from the polytheist women. Some of the Prophet's Companions refrained - out of fear of committing a sin - from having intercourse with them because they were married women, and a married woman is not lawful for anyone other than her husband. So, they thought that their marriage to their husbands was not severed. Therefore, Allah Almighty revealed verses demonstrating the ruling on copulation with those they refrained from: {Also [prohibited are] married women except for female slaves you may own.} [Surat an-Nisā’: 24] i.e., prohibited for you is marrying married women, except for the women you possess by taking them into captivity, as their marriage to their disbelieving husbands is dissolved. They become lawful for you after their wombs are verified to be empty of the semen of the disbelieving husbands, either by childbirth, in case the woman is pregnant, or by one menstrual period, if she is not pregnant.
The Hadīth indicates that the marriage of polytheists is dissolved if their wives are taken captive, as they go into the ownership of their captors.
It shows how a person should pause, search, and ask about any matter when he is not certain of the reason behind it and its ruling. This is the attitude of anyone who fears Allah Almighty..

1460

‘Abdul-Malik ibn Abi Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān reported: that when the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married ’Umm Salamah and she stayed with him and it was the morning, he said to her: "You are not humbled in the estimation of your husband. If you wish, I will stay with you for seven nights; and if you wish, I will stay with you for three nights, and then visit the others in turn." She said: "Stay for three nights.".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was both fair and merciful in dealing with his wives. In this Hadīth, the Tābi‘i ‘Abdul-Malik ibn Abi Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān relates that when the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married' Umm Salamah Hind bint Abi' Umayyah (may Allah be pleased with her) after her husband Abu Salamah (may Allah be pleased with him) had died, he stayed in her house for three nights, which was his Sunnah in case the woman was previously married; then when he wanted to leave her house and go to the others, he noticed that she considered the three nights to be little. So, he said to her: "You are not humbled in the estimation of your husband" i.e., you will not be underestimated and your right will not be lost at all. Then the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave her the choice, saying: If you wish, I will stay with you for seven nights" - and stay with other wives of mine for the same period - "and if you wish, I will stay with you for three nights, and then visit the others in turn." i.e., if you are content with these three nights, I will go to my wives in turn, one night at a time, till I come back to you. She said: "Stay for three nights" i.e., I am content with the three nights, to avoid his long absence from her..

1460

‘Abdul-Malik ibn Abi Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān reported: When the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married Umm Salamah, he entered upon her, and when he wanted to leave, she took hold of his garment. The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: If you wish, I can stay longer with you and count it for you; a virgin is entitled to seven, whereas a previously married woman is entitled to three..

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) set the greatest example in fulfilling justice between his wives and putting the family relations in order in case of polygamy.
In this Hadīth, the Tābi‘i Abu Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that when the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married ’Umm Salamah Hind bint Abi ’Umayyah (may Allah be pleased with her) after the death of her husband, Abu Salamah (may Allah be pleased with him), he entered upon her and consummated the marriage with her. After spending three days with her, he wanted to leave her house for the house of another one of his wives; however, she took hold of his garment so he would stay with her. He (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) clarified to ’Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) what she was entitled to regarding his overnight stay with her, saying: "If you wish" to have more than three days "I can stay longer with you and count it for you," i.e., calculate for you the total time of my stay with you because of this extra time. In other words: I extend my stay and the rest of my wives become entitled to the same number of days. Then, he informed her that a virgin wife - who had not been previously married - was entitled to seven nights than his other wives if he had sexual intercourse with her; whereas the Thayyib - who had been previously married - was entitled to three days.
In another Hadīth narrated by Muslim, when the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married ’Umm Salamah and she stayed with him (during the night), he said to her: "Indeed, you are not inferior in the sight of your family," i.e., you will not be underestimated, and none of your right will be lost; rather, you will take it in full. He then gave her the choice to stay for three days with her without having to make up for them or to stay for seven days with her and make it up for the rest of his wives. The three have the privilege of not having to make up for them, while the seven have the privilege of being successive and fulfilling perfect intimacy. ' Umm Salamah said: "Stay three," so she chose the three because they were not to be made up for, and he would, thus, return to her sooner since he would spend the night with them in turn then come to her. However, if she had chosen seven, he would not return to her except after making it up (days) for his other wives, and he would, thus, be far from her for a long time.
The virgin is exclusively granted seven days given her shyness, which requires extra time, patience, sensibleness, and gentleness, besides the fact that one feels inclined to stay longer with her so that he can stay with her for up to seven days in a row. On the other hand, the previously married woman had already experienced marriage, and her need for intimacy is lesser, besides the fact that one is less attached to her than to the virgin. However, given that she is not familiar yet with the company, she is honored by extending the stay, which is three. After that, he has to start dividing his time, whether he has one, two, or three wives before her.
The Hadīth indicates the recommendation of showing kindness to one's family, children, and others..

1462

Anas reported: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) had nine wives. Giving them an equal share of his time meant he would not return to the first woman except on the ninth day. So, they used to gather every night at the house of the one to whom he would come. He was at 'Ā’ishah's house. When Zaynab came, he stretched his hand towards her, thereupon, she said: This is Zaynab. So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) withdrew his hand. There was an altercation between the two until their voices became loud. Iqāmah (second call for prayer) was pronounced for prayer and it happened that Abu Bakr was passing by and he heard their voices. He said: O Messenger of Allah, come for prayer and throw dust in their mouths. So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) went out and ‘Ā’ishah said: Now the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) will finish his prayer, and Abu Bakr will come and do such-and-such to me. When the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) finished his prayer, Abu Bakr came to her and spoke to her in harsh words and said: Is this how you behave?!.

Commentary : The Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) were keen on reporting all the Prophet's acts, even what used to happen inside the house of his everyday life affairs. The purpose was to know how the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) used to deal with various situations in life to follow his example.
In this Hadīth, Anas ibn Mālik (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) had nine wives. When giving each wife her share and turn on her day and night, he would not return to the wife who took the first turn in his overnight stay except after nine nights, given that he used to stay a day and a night with each of them. It was the habit of the Prophet's wives to gather every night at the house of the one with whom the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) would stay to enjoy his company and be close to him, then, each would go to her room.
One time, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was at ‘Ā’ishah's house, on her day and night, and his wives gathered there as usual. When his wife Zaynab bint Jahsh (may Allah be pleased with her) came, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) stretched his hand to her by way of fondling. It is said: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) thought it was ‘Ā’ishah because it was night and it was her night and turn. So, ‘Ā’ishah said: "This" towards whom you stretched your hand is "Zaynab", as if ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) criticized the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) for fondling someone other than her since it was her night and her turn in her share of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him). So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) did not stretch his hand towards Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with her) and stopped. Thereupon, Zaynab and 'Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with them) altercated, disagreed, and argued due to jealousy "until their voices became loud," i.e., they were making immense noise.
Meanwhile, the time for prayer was due, and the Iqāmah was pronounced, and Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) passed by while they were in such a state of arguing noisily and loudly. So, he heard the voice of ‘Ā’ishah and Zaynab disputing. Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "O Messenger of Allah, come out for prayer" and throw dust in their mouths, which is an indirect reference to rebuking and putting an end to their dispute and loud voices. "Hathyah": the amount that fills both hands.
So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) went out and ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said to those who were with her, after the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) had left with Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him): "Now the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) will finish his prayer, and Abu Bakr will come and do such-and-such to me," i.e. when Abu Bakr finishes his prayer with the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him), he will come to me and rebuke and scold me severely for what I did, as a father would typically discipline his daughter.
‘Ā’ishah's fears came true, as when the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) finished his prayer, Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) went to her, blamed her, rebuked her, and scolded her severely for raising her voice in the presence of the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him). Abu Bakr said to ‘Ā’ishah: "Is this how you behave?!" He was blaming her for her dispute with Zaynab in the Prophet's presence.
The Hadīth clarifies the Prophet's fulfillment of justice between his wives and his kindness and courteousness with them.
It signifies how a husband should give each of his wives an equal share of his time.
It also highlights the virtue of Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) for showing compassion towards the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him).
Moreover, it shows that the less qualified person could call the attention of the more qualified one to what is good for him..

1463

‘Ā’ishah reported: I never saw a woman I would like to be in whose Mislākh (skin) more than Sawdah bint Zam‘ah. She was a woman characterized by sharpness. As she became old, she gave her day with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) to ‘Ā’ishah. She said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have granted my day with you to ‘Ā’ishah." So, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) allocated two days to ‘Ā’ishah; her own day and that of Sawdah..

Commentary : The Mother of the Believers Sawdah bint Zam‘ah, wife of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was one of the ascetic and devout worshippers. The Prophet's wives acknowledged each other's merits and were quite aware of what distinguished each one of them from the others.
In this Hadīth, ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reports that she never wished or liked to be like any of the Prophet's wives or in her place except for Sawdah bint Zam‘ah, as she wished and loved to be like her in worship and obedience, and in her manner and conduct. "Mislākh": skin, and it means: that I become her in terms of the qualities that she admired about her. Her saying: "She was a woman characterized by sharpness" is a way of describing Sawdah, not criticizing her. She meant by that to highlight her strength and solidity in challenging situations. When Sawdah grew old, she granted her day with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) to ‘Ā’ishah. Sawdah (may Allah be pleased with her) did this out of her sagacity, as she gave her day to the woman who loved the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) most. So, ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) had two days with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him): her day and Sawdah's day. This does not mean that they were two days in a row; rather, what is meant is clarifying the number of ‘Ā’ishah's days with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) in each of his rounds with his wives (may Allah be pleased with them).
The Hadīth points out that Ghibtah (envy free from malice) is in goodness, and it means one's wish to be like another in his praiseworthy qualities.
It also clarifies how the Prophet's wives loved him and sought to please him, and it guides the wives to seek to please her husband by doing what he likes..

1467

Abdullah ibn ‘Amr reported that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "This world is an enjoyment, and the best of its enjoyments is a righteous woman.".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) guided men and youth to choose the righteous woman for marriage because she is one of the greatest blessings bestowed upon man in this world.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) reports that "the world is a Matā‘," and Matā‘ is what one benefits from and enjoys, and the best worldly enjoyment for man is the religious wife, who gladdens him by looking at her and by her obedience. She is chaste, guarding herself in his absence, and she is honest, protecting his wealth. This is the essence of the righteous woman; she is righteous in her religion and herself and a reformer of her husband's conditions.
Here, he mentioned the woman in specific terms, and qualified her with righteousness to make it known that she is deemed the evilest worldly enjoyment if she does not have such a characteristic. This is because if righteousness does not prevent her from evil, she becomes evil itself. In this case, she does not push her husband or urge him except towards evil, and the least she can do is to make him crave this world until he puts himself into destruction therein..

1468

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, if he witnesses something, let him speak good or remain silent. And take care of women, for the woman was created from a rib and the most crooked part of the rib is its top. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it; and if you leave it, it will remain crooked. So, take good care of women..

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) advises us to adopt manners and morals that enhance familiarity and love between Muslims.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) informs that "whoever believes in Allah" Who created him perfectly, in terms of belief and acts, by testifying that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, and by adhering to the pillars of faith and its characteristics as a whole including words and deeds;
and believes in "the Last Day," which is the Day of Judgment to which he will return and where he will receive recompense for his deeds, and here, belief in Allah and the Last Day were mentioned in particular, among all other things that one should believe in; in reference to the beginning and the end of all things, i.e., if he believes in Allah Who created him and that He will recompense him on the Day of Judgment for his good and evil deeds, then, let him speak good or remain silent. This wording is meant to encourage and promote adherence to the command or the prohibition mentioned in the Hadīth. "If he witnesses something" in general, whether between two, a group, or the like, and there is a need for him to speak about it, then let him consider it carefully; if there is goodness in his words, then he should speak, or else he should keep silent.
The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) used to advise men to treat their wives kindly in compliance with the commands of Islam. Given the fact that women are originally created with crookedness, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) drew attention to that saying: "Take care of women" with the following addition in Al-Bukhāri version: "good care", i.e., advise each other to treat them kindly. "For the woman was created from a rib," which is one of the chest bones. In other words, there is crookedness in their original creation. "And the most crooked part of the rib is its top", this description is meant as an exaggeration in describing such crookedness and to emphasize the probability of breaking because the difficulty of straightening the top is apparent. It is said: Perhaps this is meant to refer to the woman's upper part that has her head and tongue, from where the crookedness springs. It is also said: That the form of "A‘waj" (crooked) here is meant as a description not to indicate preference, as colors and defects do not have forms indicating preference. If you try to straighten the rib and make it straight, it will break. Similarly, if you want a woman to be perfectly straight in morals, this will lead to breaking her, which is divorcing her. as mentioned in Muslim's version. "And if you leave it, it will remain crooked" as it was originally created, so it is impossible to straighten it. This is set as an example of the crookedness in women's morals; if sought to be upright, this could lead to divorce. Then, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "So, take good care of women," i.e.; there is no way except enduring this crookedness patiently. Hence, this should be tolerated with patience, and women should be treated benevolently and kindly.
Or it could be referring to gentle redress; refraining from exaggeration that leads to breaking and from negligence that leads to persistence in crookedness. To sum up, he should not neglect her crookedness if she exceeds her natural deficiency level by committing sins or abandoning duties; however, what is meant is that he should neglect her crookedness regarding what is permissible.
The Hadīth implies guidance to maintaining one's tongue and protecting it from idle talk.
It also sheds light on the importance of appeasement in attracting souls and winning hearts.
Moreover, it shows how women could be handled through pardon and patience with their crookedness..

1469

Abu Hurayrah reported that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Let not a believing man hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another - Or he said: another one.".

Commentary : Faith calls to noble morals. Thus, no believing man or woman is free from good manners, as faith requires the existence of praiseworthy qualities in them.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) says: "Let not a believing man Yafrak a believing woman," and "fark" means hatred and dislike. The "believing man" and the "believing woman" here refer to the husband and wife. It was said: This is a form of negation that denotes prohibition, i.e., she must not be totally hated. It was also said: It is a prohibition, i.e., the husband must not absolutely hate his wife in such a way that leads to oppressing, abandoning, and turning away from her. Then, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) explained this by saying that if the husband hates a bad quality in her, he will find another quality that pleases him. She could be rude but at the same time religious, pretty, chaste, or kind to him, or the like. So, he approves of this good quality that suits him and, thus, faces what he dislikes about her with what he likes about her. In this way, what he likes of her good qualities will help him patiently endure what he dislikes of her bad qualities. So, he forgives the bad for the sake of the good and overlooks what he dislikes for the sake of what he likes. And in this way, he will not absolutely hate her to the extent that he breaks up with her.
The Hadīth encourages good treatment and companionship..

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