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1422

Narrated Ma’n ibn Yazeed (may Allah be pleased with him): My grandfather, my father and I gave the pledge of allegiance to Allah's Messenger ﷺ. The Prophet ﷺ got me engaged and then got me married. One day I went to the Prophet ﷺ with a complaint.My father set aside some dinars for charity and gave them to a man in the mosque. I went to that man and took back those dinars. He said: "I had not intended you to be given." So, we went to Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and put forth the matter before him. Heﷺ said to my father, "Yazeed, you have been rewarded for what you intended." And heﷺ said to me, "Ma'n, you are entitled to what you have taken.".

Commentary : Pledging allegiance entails the conclusion of a contract and the making of a covenant, and it is called in Arabic al-Mubaaya’ah (i.e., a word that means sales) as an analogy for making a transaction, as if everyone sold what they owned. On the part of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ; a promise of reward, and on their part of the pledgers: a commitment to obedience.
In this hadeeth, Maʿn ibn Yazeed al-Sulamee (may Allah be pleased with both of them) reports that he, his father, and grandfather al-Akhnas ibn Habeeb (may Allah be pleased with him) pledged their allegiance to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.Later on, the Prophet ﷺ proposed on behalf of Maʿn ibn Yazeed to a woman and asked the woman’s guardian for their approval for her to marry him, who in turn gave her to him (Ibn Yazeed) in marriage.
The narrator related that his father had offered the alms and placed it in the care of a man in the mosque so that he could distribute it to someone deserving of the charity. But then Maʿn went and took it and told his father about it. Afterwards, his father informed him that he had intended this alms money to go to him (Ma’n). It was said: what is meant by the alms here is: that it was a voluntary charity, and not the prescribed alms tax (zakat). The two of them quarrelled and took up the matter to the Prophet ﷺ. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ ruled between them [stating] that: Yazeed will be rewarded for what he had intended to give in charity, and that Maʿn owned what he took because he was poor and belonged to the general group of the needy who were allowed to receive the alms from the deputy who is authorised to distribute it.
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it highlights that the one who offers alms [and charity] will be rewarded for what he intended, whether it finds the one who is deserving of it or not.
It shows that the son has the right to argue with his father, and it would not be out of disobedience if it was done so appropriately [i.e., with tact].
And lastly, it shows the permissibility of appointing a representative to distribute the alms and charity..

1423

Narrated AbooHurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him): The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Seven people Allah will place them under His Shade on the Day when there would be no shade but the Shade of His Throne (i.e., on the Day of Resurrection): And they are: a just ruler; a youth who grew up worshipping Allah; a person whose heart is attached to the mosques; two men who love and meet each other and depart from each other for the sake of Allah; a man whom an extremely beautiful woman seduces (for illicit relation), but he (rejects this offer and) says: 'I fear Allah'; a man who gives in charity and conceals it (to such an extent) that the left hand does not know what the right has given; and a man who remembers Allah in solitude and his eyes become tearful"..

Commentary : The Day of Resurrection is a crucial day with many terrors. It is the Day on which the sun draws near the heads of the people and its heat intensifies over them. The Messenger of Allahﷺhas given good tidings to us that Allah will place some of His servants under His shade on that day in which no other shade except for His, Exalted Be He.
In this significant hadeeth, the Messenger of Allah ﷺmentions seven kinds [of people] in his nation who will enjoy Allah’s Shade on that day in which no one else will be shaded except for those whom Allah will cover in His shade. What is meant by shade here is: the shadow of the Throne, as it is was explained in other hadeeths; one of which is related in Musnad Ahmad and Sunan al-Tirmidhee; it is reported on the authority of AbooHurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet ﷺ said:: “Whoever relieves [someone] from his debtor or erases their debt for him, will be under the shade of the Throne on the Day of Resurrection.” If what is meant [by this] is the shade of the Throne; then it follows that they are under the protection and honour of Allah, The Almighty.
The first of these seven [types] of people is: the just ruler. He is a just ruler over his subjects who preserves their rights, considers their interests, and rules over them with the Sacred Law of Allah, The Mighty and Majestic, and upholds the good in both religious and worldly affairs.
The second is the young man who grows up diligently worshipping his Lord and is committed to obeying His Commands and Prohibitions. The young man is specifically mentioned [here] because worship in youth is harder, more tiresome, and more difficult at this age; due to the many reasons for sin and disobedience, and the prevalence of desires; so, if he clings to worship during those time[s], it indicates the strength of his piety and the greatness of his fear in Allah.
The third is the man whose heart clings to the mosques. He is very fond of and is attached to the mosques. He visits them frequently and spends large amounts of time in them - remaining for the congregational and obligatory prayers and waits for prayer after prayer [to begin], as if his heart was a lantern of the masjid.
The fourth is: two people who love one another for the sake of Allah, and for His Pleasure and obedience, and not for a worldly purpose. They meet for His sake, and maintain this love for Allah, Glory be to Him. The narrator’s statement: “They meet and part ways for His cause” is clear: that their love for Allah is sincere at the times of their meeting and departure.
The fifth: is a man who was asked to engage in illegitimate sexual relations by a beautiful woman of noble descent, lineage, rank, and prestige, and refuses so by saying: ‘I fear Allah.’ It is possible that he only says that verbally; reprimanding her for attempting to commit adultery. Or, he says that in his heart, and his actions confirm that the fear of Allah prevents him from committing what angers Him. The reason women with status and beauty are particularly mentioned is due to the great desires in it. With this act, despite these many temptations, he has achievedthe perfect ranks of obedience and fear of Allah, The Almighty, and these are the characteristics of the righteous.
The sixth is a man who offers voluntary alms and goes to great lengths in concealing it. He covers them from everything, even from himself; so that his left hand does not know what his right one spends. Only, he ﷺ mentioned the right and left to exaggerate the concealment and secrecy in giving charity. He offered them both as examples because the right hand is close to the left, and [both] accompany one another. The meaning of the example given is: If his left hand was an alert man, he would not have known about it [the right hand and its spending]; due to the emphasis in concealing it. And this is the best [form] of charity, and the furthest from hypocrisy. Although it is prescribed to speak publicly about charity and zakat if it is free from showing off, it is intended to urge others to spend, emulate others, and make the rites of Islam known.
And the seventh is the man who remembers Allah with his tongue in seclusion or remembers with his heart: the greatness of Allah The Almighty, his eventual encounter with Him, that he is always standing in His presence, and that he is held accountable for his deeds all while he is alone, and secluded from people; because at that time, he is further away from hypocrisy. It was said: that his heart is free from paying attention to anything other than Allah, so that even if he is among people, his tears will flow out of fear in Allah, The Almighty.
These seven will only attain this grace by sincere devotion to Allah, The Almighty and fighting their desires; for the capable leader who is in power is not able to be just, except by opposing his whims. The young man who prefers to worship Allah over the calls of his youth would not be able to do so, had he not fought his desires. The man whose heart clings to the masjid encourages him to struggle against the inclinations that call him to places of pleasure. The one who secretly offers alms and charity to those on his left side would not have been able to do so had he not overcome his desires. And for those who: are called by a beautiful, noble woman and fear Allah, The Mighty and Majestic and opposed his cravings; and those who remember Allah, The Mighty and Majestic in private, with their eyes overflowing [with tears] out of fear of Him - it was only by opposing their longings that led them to that. Thus, Allah saved them from the swelter, sweat, and hardship of the situation which will manifest on the Day of Resurrection.
Seven types of people have been mentioned in this hadeeth. There are other narrations that relate and add more categories other than those mentioned here; among them is what Imam Muslim narrates from the hadeeth of Aboo al-Yasar, Kaʿb ibn ʿAmr al-Ansaaree (may Allah be pleased with him), who narrates that the Prophet ﷺ said: “Whoever grants a reprieve to the one in dire straits or remits his debt for him, Allah will place him under His protection.” Also: the warrior [who fights for Allah’s sake] and those who aid them, the honest merchant, and whoever assists the slave [in attaining their freedom] as it is mentioned in other narrations and hadeeths; so, this indicates that the number of those mentioned in this hadeeth doesn’t provide a limit [for the number of categories]. Likewise, the mentioning of men in this hadeeth departs from what corresponds to the preponderant position [on the issue]; [as] there is no significance to it; for women are similar to men in what is possible regarding that [i.e., being able to implement characteristics described in this narration], and the provisions of the Sacred Law are general [in applicability] for all those who are legally responsible, both male and female.
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it highlights the merits of the seven mentioned categories, and the virtue of the one who remains free from sin and devotes themself in obeying their Lord throughout his life.
It urges us to partake in righteous deeds; because they are the reasons in which the contentment of Allah, May He be Exalted, will be attained in the Hereafter.
And lastly, it highlights that one of the blessings of Allah, The Mighty and Majestic on the Day of Resurrection is being granted refuge under His protection..

1425

Narrated ‘Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her): The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said "When a woman feeds (the poor) from her husband's house, without spending too much, she will have her reward, and her husband will be rewarded likewise because he earned it, and she will be rewarded for what she spent. The same applies to the storekeeper, without anything being detracted from their rewards.”.

Commentary : In this hadeeth, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ highlights the great status of charity and encourages people to practise it. He ﷺ clarifies the reward that a woman will receive when she gives in charity from the property of her husband, with his permission, whether his permission was explicit or implicit, if she knew that he would not mind her giving charity from his wealth. He ﷺ particularly mentions that when a woman gives in charity from thefood she keeps in house to those who are poor and needy, with the intention of charity and without that causing any harm to her household or intending to waste her husband’s wealth or causing harm to him, she will be rewarded for this spending. Likewise, her husband and the storekeeper will be rewarded since the former was the one who worked to earn it, and the latter is the one responsible for keeping the food of his master. That is to say, the husband and wife will be rewarded, and the master and his owned storekeeper will be rewarded when the wife or storekeeper does that. It is either each one of them will receive his reward in full and equallyor that each one of them will receive his own reward. The acceptable amount that can be spent in this case is that which the husband or the master usually approves and allows to be given away in charity. His approval can be at the time this happens or when he comes to know about it..

1426

Narrated AbooHurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him): The Prophet ﷺ said, "The best charity is that which is given out of surplus; and begin (charity) with those who are under your care.”.

Commentary : The legal system in Islam has come as a middle point between excess and neglect. One of the areas it covers is almsgiving. It dictates that the best charity - as the Prophet ﷺ reports in this hadeeth - is what a person takes out from his wealth after fulfilling the rights of himself and dependents so that the one giving alms does not become a person in need after offering his charity to someone; for this is the charity which is given out of surplus.
Then he ﷺ instructs us to begin with those who we provide for under our care. This is an indication that the spending on one’s family is better than giving charity to others because charitable almsgiving is voluntary, and adequate support (nafaqah) and maintenance for the family is obligatory. This is from the Prophetic pedagogy, and the order of prioritiesin nafaqahthat we should observe so that a person can meet the requirements necessary for his family and whoever else he is obliged to take care of. Then, he can offer alms and charity in the manner a rich person does.
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is it shows that we should give precedence with spending on ourselves and our dependents because caring for them is confined to him alone, unlike the others.
It highlights that a person should not give all of what he owns in charity, and that we should begin with the most important concerns in the matters of religion.
And lastly, it shows thatspendingon one’s family and the person who provides for them is regarded as a charity if the person intended it as such..

1427

Narrated Hakeem ibn Hizaam (may Allah be pleased with him): “The Prophet ﷺ said, "The upper hand is better than the lower one (i.e., the spending hand is better than the receiving hand); and begin (charity) with those who are under your care; and the best charity is that which given out of surplus; and he who abstains from asking others [for his needs] and he who abstains from asking others for money will be made self-sufficient by Allah"..

Commentary : Islam urges almsgiving and spending [on others] for the sake of Allah and clarifies that what Allah has [or them] is more permanent than what a person puts away for himself.
In this hadeeth, the Prophet ﷺ explains that the upper hand - which is the hand that spends and provides - is better and more beloved to Allah, The Mighty and Majestic than the lower hand - which is the one that requests and takes charity. Then he ﷺ instructs us to begin with ourselves and whatever family and children that we support. So, the best charity is what a person takes out from his wealth after fulfilling the rights of himself and dependents so that the one giving alms does not become a person in need after offering his charity to someone. And where he ﷺsays: This is an indication that the spending on one’s family] is better than charity because charitable almsgiving is voluntary, and adequate support (nafaqah) and maintenance for the family is obligatory. This is from the Prophetic pedagogy, and the order of prioritiesin spending that we should observe so that a person can meet the requirements necessary for his family and whoever else he is obliged to take care of. Then, he can offer alms and charity from the surplus that he still has.
Then,the Messenger of Allahﷺurges for content and self-restraint. Heﷺrelates that whoever forces himself to abstain from begging for anything or asks Allah to keep him in no need of others, Allah then will grant it to him, in that He will make him content, satisfied, and pleased with whatever He has given him.
And “and he who abstains from asking others for money”, that is to say: ‘whoever asks for wealth from Allah, Exalted be He, or he shows that he is not in need of the wealth of people and avoids begging until a person who does not know the realty of his condition considers him to be rich and self-sufficient. Then, “Allah will grant it”, in that He will fill his heart with riches so that he comes rich in his heart because affluence, in reality, is the richness of the soul.
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it highlights that we should give precedence with spending on ourselves and our dependents because caring for them is confined to him alone, unlike the others.

It highlights that a person should not give all of what he owns in charity and urges us towards lofty matters, and to abandon the ignoble.
It shows us that we should begin with the most important concerns in legal matters.
And lastly, that spending on one’s family and the person who provides for them is regarded as a charity if the person considered it as such..

1430

Narrated ‘Uqbah ibn al-Haarith (may Allah be pleased with him): Once the Prophet ﷺ offered the `Asr prayer and then hurriedly went to his house and returned immediately. I (or somebody else) asked him (as to what was the matter) and heﷺ said, "I left at home a piece of gold which was from the charity and I disliked letting it remain a night in my house, so I got it distributed.".

Commentary : It is necessary for the believing person to hasten and engage in good deeds because pitfalls may happen and thus hinder him from performing good deeds, and death can strike at any moment, and procrastination is not condemned and not praiseworthy.
In this hadeeth, ʿUqbah ibn al-Haarith (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Prophet ﷺ was with them for the late afternoon prayer (ʿAsr), and right after he ﷺ concluded his prayer, he ﷺ rushed to get up from his place and went to his home. “It did not take him long...”, is an allusion for hurriedly departing from his house. Then, his Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) asked him about what prompted this haste; to which the Prophet ﷺ explained to them that he ﷺ had left a tibr - which is a portion of gold before it is wrought - at his house, and this tibr was for charity. Then he ﷺ related that he disliked letting it remain at his house at night; and for that reason, he ﷺ hurried to divide it up for those who were in need.
It was said: the reason he ﷺhurried to distribute the almsis that he feared that whoever had a right to that piece of tibr would be in need of it, and [by delaying it] his right would have been held back from him that night. The Prophetﷺwas benevolent and merciful to the believers; so, heﷺ clarified the matter to his nation,in order that they follow his example and imitate him ﷺ.
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it highlights that the ruler and the scholar ought to hasten to meet the needs of the peopleand responded to them.
And lastly, it shows the permissibility for the imamto leave immediately after the prayer without sitting down [after the prayer]..

1432

Narrated Aboo Moosa al-‘Ash’aree (may Allah be pleased with him): Whenever a needy person would come to the Prophet ﷺ or he ﷺ was asked for help, he ﷺ would turn to those who were present and say, "Make intercession for him, and you will be rewarded; and Allah will carry out whatsoever He wills through His Prophet’s mouth.".

Commentary : The Prophet ﷺwas benevolent and merciful to the people and would hasten in upholding their needs and advocating for the people with truth and justice; to teach his cooperative ummah piety and cognizance of Allah.
In this hadeeth, Aboo Moosa al-Ashʿaree (May Allah be pleased with him) relates that whenever a beggar in need came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺto ask for alms; or, a person with a need came to him and asked of him to fulfil it – he ﷺ would help them with it and say, “Intercede for them, and you will be rewarded,“ that is to say: ‘You will be rewarded by Allah, The Mighty and Majestic for that.’ What is meant by intercession here is: aiding someone else in the matters of this worldly life, and in helping people in whatever is good for them in their worldly affairs. The Muslim should strive to help his fellow brother in his needs and what he asks of him, and intermediate to fulfil it so long as it is good and supports him in his religion and life, and that the need is not a sin or neglects a divine proscription [put forth by] Allah, The Almighty. As for other needs - such as granting relief for the impoverished, helping those who are in debt, and conciliating between two people who are quarrelling - so people should hasten to strive with me in addressing these issues.
Then, he ﷺ said: “and Allah will carry out whatsoever He wills through His Prophet’s mouth,” which means that whatever Allah decreed and foreordained will come to pass; so, if He decrees for a wish to come true, then it will come to pass. And if He decrees for it not to happen; then it will not manifest. Everything is by Allah’s Divine Decree and Foreordainment, and the reward for the mediator does not depend on his fulfilment of the need of the person, for he is rewarded for the mere pursuit of it all.
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it encourages mediating and interceding on behalf of people and striving to meet their needs.
And lastly, it confirms Allah’s Divine Decree and Foreordainment..

1433

Narrated Asmaa’ (may Allah be pleased with her): The Prophet ﷺ said to me: Do not withhold it or it will be withheld from you.”.

Commentary : The Prophet ﷺ used to guide his nation to lofty words and deeds and would preach to the people depending on their needs.
In this hadeeth, the Prophet ﷺ says to Asmaa’ bint Abee Bakr (May Allah be pleased with her and her father): ‘Do not withhold [your money]’- where we can see that the verbal noun, al-’Īkaa’ for this verb in Arabic means to tie the head of a container with a wikaa’, which is a rope or string that ties it [i.e., a waterskin or bag]. So, the meaning of this statement is: ‘Don’t hoard away and withhold your money from almsgiving out of fear of it dwindling, otherwise the substance of your sustenance will be cut off from you.’
The reason for this is what is mentioned in Saheeh al-Bukhaaree and Saheeh Muslim, where Asmaa’ (May Allah be pleased with her) asked the Prophet ﷺ a question about almsgiving and said: ‘O Messenger of Allah! I own nothing except that which al-Zubayr has left for me. May I offer the alms?” To which, he ﷺ said: “Offer it, and do not withhold it or it will be withheld from you.” In another agreed upon narration, it is reported that he ﷺ said to her: “Don’t count [it]” - where the Arabic verbal noun, al-Iḥṣaa’, for the verb used here means to have knowledge of the amount of something, whether by weight or quantity. So, the meaning of this statement is: ‘Don’t count what you are giving so that you may be increased by it and let that be a reason for it to be cut off.’ This indicates that almsgiving increases one’s wealth and can be a reason for blessing and increase. Whoever is miserly and does not give alms, Allah will withhold his sustenance from him, and prevent the blessing in his wealth and its growth.
One benefit that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it shows that being miser greed with charity and alms - especially with what is obligatory to give (zakat) - leads to destruction of wealth; so, it’s as if generosity opens the doors of sustenance, [blessing, and growth]..

1434

Narrated Asmaa’ (may Allah be pleased with her): The Prophet ﷺ said to me: Do not withhold it or it will be withheld from you, and give what little you can.”.

Commentary : The Prophetﷺ used to guide his nation to lofty words and deedsand would admonish the people depending on their needs.
In this hadeeth, Asmaa’ bint Abee Bakr (may Allah be pleased with her and her father) came to the Prophet ﷺ and asked him about giving alms. The Prophet ﷺ said to her: “Do not withhold it”, meaning: “Do not store away your wealth or refrain from spending it for the sake of Allah and offering alms with it because that would be a reason for Allah to take away its blessing, increase, and growth from reaching you.
And he ﷺ said: “Give what little you can,” meaning: ‘Spend without rendering yourself poor as long as you are able to, even if it is just a little, and do not hoard and abstain from giving alms out of fear that [your wealth] will dwindle, otherwise the substance of your sustenance will be cut off from you.’
In Saheeh al-Bukhaaree and Saheeh Muslim, it is related that Asmaa’ (may Allah be pleased with her) asked the Prophet ﷺ a question about almsgiving and said to him: ‘O Messenger of Allah! I own nothing except that which al-Zubayr has left for me. May I offer the alms?” To which, he ﷺ said: “Offer it, and do not withhold it [or it will be withheld] from you.” And in another agreed upon narration, it is reported that he ﷺ said to her: “Do not count [it]” - where the Arabic verbal noun, al-Ihsaa’, for the verb used here means to have knowledge of the amount of something, whether by weight or quantity. So, the meaning of this statement is: ‘Do not count what you are giving so that you may be increased by it and let that be a reason for it [i.e., the blessings] to be cut off.’
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it shows that charity and almsgiving increase wealth, and that generosity opens the doors of sustenance, blessing, and growth.
And that refraining from offering charity and alms - especially with what is obligatory to give (zakat) - leads to destruction of wealth..

1435

Narrated Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him): "`Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) asked, 'Who amongst you remembers the statement of Allah's Messenger ﷺ about afflictions'?' I said, 'I know it as the Prophetﷺ had said it.' `Umar said, 'No doubt, you are bold. How did he say it?' I said, 'A man's afflictions (wrong deeds) concerning his wife, children and neighbours are expiated by (his) prayers, charity, and enjoining good.' (The sub-narrator Sulaymaan added that he said, 'The prayer, charity, enjoining good and forbidding evil.') `Umar said, 'I did not mean that, but I ask about that affliction which will spread like the waves of the sea.' I said, 'O Chief of the Believers! You need not be afraid of it as there is a closed door between you and it.' He asked, 'Will the door be broken or opened?' I replied, 'No, it will be broken.' He said, 'If it is broken, it will never be closed again?' I replied, 'Yes.' " Then we were afraid to ask what that door was, so we asked Masrooq to inquire, and he asked Hudhayfah regarding it. Hudhayfah said, "The door was `Umar. "We further asked Hudhaifa whether `Umar knew what that door meant. Hudhayfah replied in the affirmative and added, "He knew it as one knows that there will be a night before the tomorrow morning, and that I reported to him a hadeeth with no errors.".

Commentary : Trials and afflictions are many; some of them are easy, and others are great. The Prophet ﷺ informed us about many of the trials which will take place to serve as a warning against them and urged us to hasten in grabbing onto the ropes of salvation.
In this hadeeth, Hudhayfah ibn al-Yamaan (may Allah be pleased with him and his father) reports that ʿUmar (may Allah be pleased with him), during the era of his caliphate, asked the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) that were at his gathering at that time: ‘Which of you remembers the statements of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ about the trial?’ Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him) thought that ʿUmar (may Allah be pleased with him) was asking about the particulartrial [some will face], so he replied to him by [stating] that he knew the Prophet’s ﷺ words about the trial literally and exactly as he ﷺ had said: which is: that the person will face trials with regards to their family, wealth, children, and neighbours. What is meant by it is: what evil, sorrow, and the like that befalls him in relation to them [i.e., the listed trials], his preoccupation with them while engaging in pious deeds; his negligence in upholding what is required concerning their rights, his shortcomings in matters of the religion, and what [often] tempts him from the [various] lesser misdeeds. Prayer, fasting, almsgiving, and enjoining the good and prohibiting evil expiate these misgivings. That is to say: that these specifictrials are those which afflict the Muslim because of his love for himself, his children, and his wealth, and they are expiated by righteous deeds and acts of worship. However, ʿUmar (may Allah be pleased with him) did not mean these particular trials, but rather the afflictions which swell and surge like the sea, i.e., by which people will be unsettled, and fight one another. It is the general strife that will afflict all the Muslims.
Then Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him) reassured him that if his question was about the general turmoil that will afflict all Muslims with horrors and calamities, and plunge them into wars and [conflicts of] bloodshed among them; then the Muslims today are safe from it, and that there is a strong, locked door between him and this turmoil [being spoken of]; but this door will be broken down, and violence, hardship, and bloodshed will follow. And here, ʿUmar, (may Allah be pleased with him) knew that if this door is broken, it will remain open for blood, and the wars between the Muslims would not end. The TaabiʿeeAbooWaa’il Shaqeeq ibn Salamah reported that they were afraid to ask Hudhayfah about who was the intended person being referred to as the door. So, they appointed Masrooq ibn al-Ajdaʿ to ask him about the matter. Only Masrooq dared to ask him because of his vast knowledge and high rank. Then Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him) told them that the door was ʿUmar (may Allah be pleased with him). The word door [used here] is a metaphor for him.
The taabiʿeenasked Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him) about ʿUmar’s knowledge of who was intended by this door [referenced in the hadeeth], in which, if it was broken, would lead to affliction. Then, Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him) related that ʿUmar knew that he was the door [being alluded to], “as [one would know] that there is a night before the [following] morning”, that is to say: that his knowledge of that was certain, necessary, evident - just as that there is no doubt that the day you are in precedes the morrow that comes after it. He knew that the barrier between Islam and the affliction was his presence (may Allah be pleased with him); “and that I reported to him a hadeeth with no errors.” So, what ʿUmar understood and knew was only due to what Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him) related to him, which was a hadeeth narrated by the Prophet ﷺ, and that it was not based on his own interpretation or opinion. And this was when the stateduring his reign was strong, and the citizens feared and loved him at the same time, and the enemies feared his power and name. But after his rule, strife had appeared, and the forces were divided, as what occurred in the turmoil in which the Caliph, ʿUthmaan ibn ʿAffaan (may Allah be pleased with him) was killed. Then, what came after that [include, but is not limited to the following]: the emergence of the Khawaarij, the fighting between ʿAlee (may Allah be pleased with him) and those who opposed him, and the appearance of [many] deviant sects whose discord has not ceased fighting even till today.
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it highlights the merit and virtue of ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allah be pleased with him) and shows that good deeds are an expiation for misdeeds [and sins].
And lastly, it indicates the proper etiquette the taabiʿeen had with those who are high in rank and virtue..

1436

Narrated Hakeem ibn Hizaam (may Allah be pleased with him): “I said to Allah's Messenger ﷺ, "Before embracing Islam I used to do good deeds with the intention of drawing myself nearer to Allah like giving in charity, slave-manumitting, and the keeping of good relations with my kin. Shall I be rewarded for those deeds?" The Prophet ﷺ replied, "You became Muslim with all those good deeds (without losing their reward).".

Commentary : Verily, Allah, Glory be to He, has bestowed His bounty and favours upon His servants with whatever rewards and recompense He wills,Indeed,Allah is the Lord of infinite bounty.
In this hadeeth, Hakeem ibn Hizaam (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that he asked the Prophet ﷺ about the ruling of things that he performed in the service of Allah in the period of ignorance before Islam; some of which include: almsgiving, manumitting slaves, and maintaining good relations with kin: Will he be rewarded for those deeds? The Messenger of Allah ﷺ replied to him: ‘You embraced Islam with the acceptance of your previous good deeds from the past.” So, the Prophet ﷺ clarified that if the disbeliever becomes Muslim and dies upon Islam and had performed some righteous and good deeds before reverting - such as giving alms, freeing slaves, and maintaining good relations with family and relatives - then he will be rewarded for the good he did while being a disbeliever, as it is proven that every sin will be erased off him. So, he will return like his mother had bore him, [wholesome and] free of sins and misdeeds.
This is the apparent meaning of his statement: “You embraced Islam with the acceptance of what preceded [you] in goodness”: [showing] that if the disbeliever embraces Islam and dies as a Muslim, then he will be rewarded for what good he did while he was in a state of disbelief. It was said: that its meaning may have several other meanings; one of which is: that you have acquired a beautiful temperament, and benefit from it in Islam, and that habit is a preparing and assisting you to do good and righteous deeds. Another interpretation is: that it is not unlikely that he will be increased by his good deeds which he performs in Islam [i.e., as a Muslim]. And his rewards multiplied for what beautiful deeds he had done previously; so, if the disbeliever used to do good deeds, then it will be easier for him [to partake in them again in the future]. So, it is not unlikely that the rewards will increase for this.
One benefit that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it indicates that the good deeds of a disbeliever - if he embraces and passes away with Islam - will be counted for him in the Hereafter. And if he dies in a [state] of disbelief, then [all of his good deeds] will be deemed in vain and wasted..

1438

Narrated AbooMoosa (may Allah be pleased with him): The Prophet ﷺ said, "A trustworthy Muslim treasurer who carries out the orders of his master and pays fully what he has been ordered to give with a good heart and pays to that person to whom he was ordered to pay, is regarded as one of the two charitable persons.".

Commentary : The one who guides to the good and partakes in it will attain a great reward and recompense as the one who [actually] does it. One of the best types of goodness and pious deeds is almsgiving, and for everyone who participates in taking out alms [and distributing it to others] will be rewarded as if they, themselves, have offered the alms if they fulfil the conditions that are complied with in that [matter], as what this hadeeth clarifies; where the Prophetﷺmentions that the Muslim treasurer who is responsible to his master for his vaults and entrusted to preserve and store food, wealth, and other things. If this treasurer, who honours his duty towards his master and whoever entrusts him to safeguard their money, was ordered to take out the alms and distribute it, then he would give out in full, with a good heart, to those deserving of it; he would have obtained a reward similar to the one who donated the alms [directly], as if he had offered it the alms himself, [instead of just distributing it].

He ﷺ stipulated that the reward is given to the treasurer if he gives the alms complete [and in full], and that he does this while being kind, and not be envious of the one who gave it to him [i.e., the donation to distribute]; lest he loses the intention and misses the reward, which are necessary, so he be eligible for the reward. This reward will not be offered to the treasurer who abuses the authority that was given to him and thus withhold the alms that the owner of wealth approved, according to his whims, or if he gives it to them with an unpleasant heart. Sometimes he gives them the alms with a kind of reproach and reprimand. This is something which should not be done because it does not correspond to the legitimate purpose of almsgiving and doing the good to which was entrusted to them. Not to mention the loss of their rewards and blessings with Allah, The Almighty.
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it serves as an indication for the merits of trustworthiness and fulfilling what one had been entrusted with and not to be negligent in that.
And lastly, it highlights the evidence of cooperation in righteousness and piety is decreed for those who aid [and participate in the process]] is similar to what is decreed for the one who did [the act themselves], and this is the grace of Allah that He bestows upon whomever He wills..

1442

Narrated AbooHurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him): The Prophet ﷺ said, "Every morning, two angels come down from Heaven and one of them says, 'O Allah! Compensate every person who spends [in Your Cause],' and the other angel says, 'O Allah! Bring destruction to [the wealth of] every miser.' ".

Commentary : The treasures and bounties of Allah - May He be Glorified - never deplete. He has urged His servants to spend and offer goodness, and not to calculate or take into account the amount in what they spent [in charity], and has promised them with a recompense of blessing, and that they will be requited with a great reward for spending on His behalf.
In this hadeeth, the Prophet ﷺ urged for offering alms and spending on charitable causes and clarified the beautiful reward for [doing] that. And he ﷺ warned of the miser and withholding [one’s wealth] and shows its bad outcome. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ reports that every day when the servant awakes, until the Hour of the Resurrection; Allah sends down two venerable angels from the heavens. One of them supplicates for Allah to give back to the almsgiver who spends on charitable and righteous causes, in return for what he spent and gave. And the other angel will supplicate for Allah to give to the withholding miser the ruination of his wealth, or [to] destroy him and for his wealth to vanish. It is well-known that the supplications of the angels are answered; so, this is a promise of ease for the one who spends for charitable purposes, and a threat of difficulty for the miser who withholds and hoards his wealth.
It was said that: praiseworthy spending is what is put forward in acts of worship (zakat), and that which is spent on dependants, guests, and voluntary charity; and that it is done so out of kindness and comes from a wholesome and lawful earning. But the one who refrains from spending his wealth in that which is recommended in religion is not worthy of this supplication [i.e., the one offered by the first angel] since reprehensible greediness overcomes him, in such a matter that he will not be pleasant with taking out from his wealth the right [of others] which is incumbent upon him, even if he takes it out and offers it. Also, the supplication for the one who spends is general, in that Allah will compensate him for it in this world or in the Hereafter. As for the supplication which calls for ruin, it is possible that it means to destroys the source of the wealth, or the owner of the wealth himself. What is meant by it is that [his] righteous deeds will vanish due to being preoccupied with others [and his vain self-interests].
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it urges us to spend in what is mandatory, such as spending on one’s family, and maintaining good relations with kin and kith; and voluntary and obligatory contributions are included in this.
And lastly, it shows us that the miser who withholds [and hoards his money] deserves to have his wealth ruined..

1443

Narrated AbooHurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him): I heard the Prophet ﷺ say, "The example of an almsgiver and a miser is like the example of two persons who have two iron cloaks on them from their breasts to their collar bones, and when the almsgiver wants to give in charity, the cloak becomes capacious till it covers his whole body to such an extent that it hides his fingertips and covers his footprints (obliterates his tracks). And when the miser wants to spend, it (the iron cloak) sticks and every ring gets stuck to its place and he tries to widen it, but it did not become wide.” The part of the two iron clocks is also narrated through al-Hasan ibn Muslim from Ta’woos. Handhalah related from Ta’woos that it is two gardens (instead of two cloaks). Al-Layth said: Ja’far narrated to me from Ibn Hirmiz that he heard AbooHurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) say that the Prophet ﷺ mentioned “two gardens.”.

Commentary : The charity and alms which a person takes from his wealth for righteous purposes after upholding the rights of himself and his dependents so that the one giving alms does not become a person in need after offering his charity to someone, is one of the best acts of obedience, and greatest pious deeds which is pleasing to Allah, The Almighty. It has laudable consequences in this world and in the Hereafter, whereas miserliness and greed are the opposite of the aforementioned; so, their consequences are disastrous in this world and the Hereafter.
In this hadeeth, The Prophet ﷺ gave a parable regarding the miser and charitable almsgiver, where he ﷺ likens them to two men wearing jubbahs, woven of iron. The jubbah is similar to the cloak, which is worn over other clothes. This garment (as worn by the two men presented in the example of the Prophet ﷺ) went from their breast [down] to where are the two bones at the top of the chest that point towards the side[s] of the mouth, located between the gap of the upper chest and neck [i.e., collarbones]. This is a reference as to how small the jubbah was for [both] the charitable person and miser. So, the one who spends charitably is given a gift when the jubbah worn by him became long and abundant (due to his almsgiving); i.e., it increased in size and length upon him, or “became plentiful over his skin,” and immersed his body “to the point that it covers his fingertips,” meaning: that it became long and flowed over him until it covered his entire body.
“And eliminates his tracks”, i.e., it erases the steps that he takes [as he walks]. This is an explanation for the incredible length of the garment on its owner. As for the miser, every time he refrains from giving alms and stops spending, his jubbah will tighten on him until every ring clings to his skin. He will try to stretch it out with his hand while it is very tight, but it will not widen to release its grip.
What is intended by this parable that if the generous are devoted to almsgiving, his chest will be widened by it, and his soul will become pleasant; and will thus amplify in his spending [and giving charity]. And the miser, if he talks to himself about almsgiving, will become stingy. Then his chest will narrow, and his hands will be clenched. It was said: it means that if the one who spends does so charitably, the alms will expiate his sins and wipe them away, just as the jubbah when it enshrouded him abundantly, concealed him, and safeguarded him [from harm]. The miser does not even obey himself in offering charity, so his offenses will remain uncovered and exposed.
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it highlights that every time the one who offers alms extends his hand with goodness, Allah extends His grace to him so that He will repay him multiple times over what he spent for His sake. And every time the miser clenches his hands, Allah constricts him, and fills his heart with the fear of becoming poor, and despair of recovering that which he spent..

1445

Narrated AbooMoosa (may Allah be pleased with him): The Prophet ﷺ said: Every Muslim has to give in charity." The people asked, "O Allah's Prophet! If someone has nothing to give, what will he do?" He said, "He should work with his hands and benefit himself and also give in charity (from what he earns)." The people further asked, "What should he do if he cannot find even that?" He replied, "He should help the needy who appeal for help." The people then asked, "What should he do if he cannot do that?" He replied, "Then he should perform good deeds and keep away from evil deeds and this will be regarded as charitable deeds.".

Commentary : The charity and alms which a person takes from his wealth for righteous purposes after upholding the rights of himself and his dependents is one of the best acts of obedience, and greatest pious deeds which is pleasing to Allah, The Almighty. Charity doesn’t only [come in the form] of money. Rather, it can [include] helping [others] to do good and preventing evil as well; as what is shown in this hadeeth, where the Prophet ﷺ clarifies that it is incumbent upon every Muslim to offer charity voluntarily because charity without the obligatory zakat is a mandatory duty of every Muslim to offer it as a recommended act [of worship], regardless of his circumstances and conditions. So, whoever is poor and does not own any money to give in charity, let him work with his own hands until he is able to acquire [enough] to benefit himself, by spending it on himself [for his needs], his family, and those who depend on him, and whatever is extra is offered in charity to others.
If he does not find any money to offer in charity, then he assists anyone who is troubled and in need - which is the one who is helpless or oppressed. Likewise, everyone who has experienced a calamity and seeks help for it.
“And if he does not find [them]”, that is to say: if he is not able to help anyone with their need[s], then let him perform righteous deeds, perform physical, supererogatory physical acts of worship, [such as]: prayer, fasting, reciting the Quran, and more. Let him [also] abstain from sin, and avoid that which is prohibited, [like]: backbiting, slander, lying, and spread ant evil or harm to the servants (Muslims); because doing the good and abstaining from evil has the reward of almsgiving.
From the other benefits that we can conclude from this hadeeth is that it highlights that charity is required of every Muslim, whether they be rich or poor, each one according to their best of ability.
And that if good deeds are accompanied with a good intention, it can take the place of almsgiving with regards to the rewards, especially for those who are not able to offer alms.
It shows that charity that is given by those who are able to do so is better than all other deeds restricted to the person who is doing it.
It provides a proof for who stated that refraining from an action is considered a deed that people will be judged about it.
It shows the merits of earning a living because of what potentials it offers in helping and offering oneself to others [in service].
And lastly, it shows us that the doors that open to goodness are many, and the path to pleasing Allah is not absent..

1441

Abu ad-Dardā’ reported: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) came across a woman in the advanced stage of pregnancy at the door of a tent, and he said: "Perhaps he wants to copulate with her." They said: 'Yes.' Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I resolved to curse him with a curse that would enter his grave with him. How would he be his heir while this is not lawful for him?! And how would he employ him while this is not lawful for him?!".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) used to forbid his Companions from unlawful things and all that Allah, the Exalted and Glorified, prohibited. He would sometimes do so by encouraging them to obtain the reward with Allah Almighty and other times by intimidating them from the penalty and punishment of Allah.
In this Hadīth, Abu ad-Dardā’ (may Allah be pleased with him) informs that while the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was on a journey, he passed by a woman in the advanced stage of pregnancy. She was one of the captives and was sitting at the door of a tent. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Perhaps he", meaning her owner and master who obtained her as his share of the captives. "wants to copulate with her" i.e., wants to engage in sexual intercourse with her. However, it is not lawful for the master of a pregnant captive to copulate with her until she gives birth. Then, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said that he resolved and intended to supplicate against him to be turned away from Allah's mercy and for that to continue after his death. He (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) intended to curse him because he failed to ascertain the emptiness of her womb, for if he copulates with his captive whom he owns while she is pregnant from someone else, he is thus neglecting to ascertain the emptiness of her womb. However, the cursing did not take place because this man was not aware of the ruling.
His words: "How would he be his heir while this is not lawful for him" means that this slave-girl captive may give birth after six months, and thus, the baby is likely from this captor, and it is likely from someone before him. So, if he is from the captor, then he is his child, and they may inherit from each other; and if he is from someone else, then he and the captor may not inherit from each other, given the lack of blood relationship.
Then, he said: "And how would he employ him," i.e., the child? If he employs him as a slave, it is probable that he came from him, and thus, he will be enslaving his child and cutting off his own lineage, and for this, he will be worthy of cursing. And if he attributes the baby to himself as his child, it is likely that he did not come from him, and thus he will be making him his heir, whereas he is not his heir, and for this, he will be worthy of cursing.
The Hadīth indicates that captivity nullifies previous ownership and dissolves marriage.
It also indicates that when there is a new owner of a female slave, it becomes due to ascertain the emptiness of her womb. So, he may not copulate with her until her womb is verified to be empty of pregnancy.
It also points out that it is forbidden to copulate with a pregnant captive until she gives birth..

1442

Judāmah bint Wahb - sister of ‘Ukkāshah - reported: I was there when the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to some people: "I was about to forbid Ghīlah (sexual intercourse during the breastfeeding period), so I considered that the Romans and the Persians do it without any harm done to their children thereby." Then they asked him about coitus interruptus, and the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "That is the hidden Wa’d (burying a child alive).".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was keen on benefiting the believers and showed sympathy and concern for them. He left nothing that could be of benefit to them without guiding them to it and ordering them to do it. However, he used to correct the lies and suspicions that were spread among people and inherited from the pre-Islamic era of ignorance out of guidance and politeness.
In this Hadīth, the female Companion Judāmah al-Asadiyyah bint Wahb (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates that she attended with the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) an assembly that had some of his Companions (may Allah be pleased with them). The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "I was about to," i.e., I was determined to forbid "Ghīlah", which is having intercourse with one's wife during her breastfeeding period, or a woman's conception during the breastfeeding period. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was determined to forbid it because there was a popular belief at that time that it was harmful to the infant. They used to say that if the breastfeeding woman had sexual intercourse with her husband and conceived during her breastfeeding period, her milk would be spoilt and the child would get weak if he fed on it, and the Arabs would hate and avoid him. However, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) saw that the Romans and the Persians - two great kingdoms at that time - did this without worrying about it, besides the fact that it did not cause their children any harm; so, he did not forbid it.
Then, the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) asked him about the ruling on coitus interruptus, which means removing the man's penis from the woman's vagina before ejaculation and ejaculating outside the vagina to avoid conception. The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "That is the hidden Wa’d," considering the coitus interruptus hidden burial of a child alive because it entails wasting the sperm that Allah Almighty has prepared to be a child. So, it resembles killing a child by burying him alive. However, there is no doubt that it is less grave, and this is why he said it is hidden.
In the Two Sahīh Collections, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to those who asked him about the coitus interruptus: "It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Judgment will be born," i.e., no soul to exist in the knowledge of Allah Almighty except that it will come to exist, whether the coitus interruptus is done or not. Despite the coitus interruptus, there could be a small amount of semen ejaculated which Allah destined to form a child, and on the other hand, there could be normal ejaculation without conception. In short, coitus interruptus or normal ejaculation are equal as both do not lead to having a child except by Allah's decree..

1443

‘Āmir ibn Sa‘d reported: that Usāmah ibn Zayd informed his father Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqās that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "I practice coitus interruptus with my wife." The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to him: "Why do you do that?" The man said: "I fear for her child - or for her children." Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If this was harmful, it would harm the Persians and the Romans." [In a version]: "If it was for that, then no. This does not harm the Persians or the Romans.".

Commentary : Islam is keen on the safety of Muslims and has guided them to what presents good care of children. This includes the exhortation to provide good suckling.
In this Hadīth, Usāmah ibn Zayd (may Allah be pleased with him) relates that a man came to the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "I practice coitus interruptus with my wife." Coitus interruptus is practiced by removing the male sex organ out of the woman's vulva before ejaculation, and the man ejaculates outside the vulva, to prevent pregnancy. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) asked him: For what reason do you do this act? The man said: "I fear for her child", who suckles from her. This is because if she gets pregnant, her milk will be spoiled, and the body of the baby will become unsound and weak. Or he meant the famous notion among the Arabs that copulation damages milk and that such milk will be a malady and if the baby drinks it, he will become ill. So, he feared that he would be thin and unwell. Thereupon, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to him: "If this was harmful" - copulation or pregnancy during the period of suckling - "it would harm the Persians and the Romans", for the women of the Persians and the Romans suckle their babies while they are pregnant. So, if pregnancy or copulation during the period of suckling was harmful, it would harm their children. But the reality belies that, as they do not care to avoid this matter and their children are in good condition, and you are like them in this regard..

1451

’Umm al-Fadl reported: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "One suckling or two or one sucking or two does not make marriage unlawful." [In a version]: (and) instead of (or)..

Commentary : Islam has made suckling a bond like blood relation, and it has established the unlawfulness of marriage by suckling like the unlawfulness of marriage due to blood relations. It has forbidden a man from marrying his sister, mother, maternal aunt, or paternal aunt by suckling, and so on.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) informs about the amount that does not establish the ruling on suckling that makes marriage unlawful. He says: "One suckling or two or one sucking or two does not make marriage unlawful." This was said in response to someone who asked about one suckling and two. So, he replied that they do not make marriage unlawful, whether this suckling happens before the completion of two years or beyond that. The amount that makes marriage unlawful is five sucklings taken before the completion of two years. In a Hadīth by Muslim, ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: "In what was sent down in the Qur’an was ten known sucklings that make (marriage) unlawful. Afterwards, they were abrogated by five known ones. Then the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) passed away while they were part of what was recited in the Qur’an." And ’Umm Salamah reported: The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The only suckling which makes marriage unlawful is what is taken from the breast and enters the bowels and is taken before the time of weaning." Narrated by At-Tirmidhi..

1452

‘Ā’ishah reported: It was revealed in the Qur’an that: ten times of known breastfeeding prohibits (marriage); then it was abrogated and replaced with five times of known (breastfeeding). The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) died while these (words of the abrogating verse) were still being recited as part of the Qur’an..

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) clarified for his Ummah all that is lawful and unlawful including the rulings of breastfeeding and the consequent rulings related to lineages.
In this Hadīth, the Mother of the Believers ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reports the amount that used to establish the ruling of breastfeeding, that makes marriage prohibited at first, whereby the woman becomes prohibited for the man to marry the same, as it is prohibited for him by consanguinity (being descended by the same ancestor). She (may Allah be pleased with her) reported that it was first revealed in the Qur’an that ten times of known breastfeeding prohibits marriage. Then, this number was abrogated, and it became five times of known breastfeeding, i.e., known and satiating during the two years of infancy. In At-Tirmidhi's Collection, ’Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) reported: The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "No prohibition results from breastfeeding, except for what penetrates the intestines from the breast before weaning." So, breastfeeding after two full years does not prohibit anything, as Allah Almighty says: {Mothers may breastfeed their children for two full years, for those who wish to complete the full term of breastfeeding.} [Surat al-Baqarah: 233] Abrogation in the Qur’an has three types: First: What is abrogated in terms of ruling and recitation. Second: That which is abrogated in terms of recitation apart from its ruling. Third: That which is abrogated in terms of ruling apart from its recitation. The first two types of abrogation are found in this Hadīth. (Ten times of known breastfeeding prohibits) was abrogated both in terms of ruling and recitation, whereas the five times of breastfeeding was abrogated in terms of recitation only and its ruling has remained.
The statement of ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her): "The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) died while these (words of the abrogating verse) were still being recited as part of the Qur’an" meaning: The abrogation by the five times of breastfeeding was revealed at a very late stage to the extent that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) died while some people were still reciting the part of the five times of breastfeeding as part of the Qur’an because of not being aware of that recent abrogation. Later, when they learned about the abrogation, they stopped reciting it and unanimously agreed that it should not be recited..

1453

Zaynab bint Abi Salamah reported: I heard' Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, say to 'Ā’ishah: By Allah, I do not feel comfortable to be seen by a boy who has passed the age of suckling. She said: Why? Sahlah bint Suhayl came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, by Allah, I see (displeasure) on the face of Abu Hudhayfah because of Sālim entering." She said: Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Suckle him." She said: "He has a beard." He said: "Suckle him, and what is on the face of Abu Hudhayfah will go away." She said: "By Allah, I did not see it on the face of Abu Hudhayfah.".

Commentary : In this Hadīth, Zaynab bint Abi Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) informs that she heard her mother' Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, swearing to 'Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and saying: "By Allah, I do not feel comfortable" i.e., I do not like it; "to be seen by a boy" from non-Mahram (unrelated) males "who has passed the age of suckling" i.e., he is no longer in need of suckling. Thereupon, ‘Ā’ishah said to ’Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with both of them): "Why?" i.e., why are you saying this, whereas there is nothing wrong with that if you suckle him or he is suckled by someone who makes him a Mahram (related and non-marriageable) to you? This is evidenced by the fact that "Sahlah bint Suhayl", the wife of Abu Hudhayfah, came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and swore to him that she would see dislike on the face of Abu Hudhayfah because of their foster son Sālim continuing to enter the house as he would usually do when he was young, and he now reached adulthood - particularly after verses had been revealed prohibiting adoption. Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Suckle him" to be your son by suckling. She said to him: "He has a beard" for he is an adult man. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Suckle him and what is on the face of Abu Hudhayfah will go away" i.e., the sign of dislike will vanish from him. Sahlah did so and then she swore that she did not find the sign of dislike on the face of Abu Hudhayfah after she had suckled him.
This Hadīth is problematic in terms of explaining it and deriving rulings therefrom, and difference of opinion actually arose over it among the Prophet's wives. ’Umm Salamah and some of the Prophet's wives believed that this was a dispensation from the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) to the wife of Abu Hudhayfah alone, and they held that there should be no suckling for adults and that the suckling that makes a person a Mahram is the one provided in young age and which grows the bones and builds the body and flesh.
As for ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), she - as reported here - held that suckling causes prohibition of the same things made prohibited by blood relations, whether the suckled one is a child or an adult. She cited as evidence the story of Sālim, the freed slave of Abu Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with both of them) and that the ruling is not exclusively restricted to them.
What appears to be right - and Allah knows best - is that suckling of adults does not count, has no effect, and causes no prohibition, and that true suckling is that which occurs during babyhood; and what happened in the story of Sālim is particularly restricted to him and does not apply to anyone other than him. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) affirmed that not every suckling causes prohibition. In a Hadīth in the Two Sahīh Collections, he said: "Indeed, suckling is from hunger" i.e., the suckling that counts is the one that occurs at the time when milk is relied upon for food and in the amounts that affect the growth of the baby's body.
The Hadīth points out that suckling causes prohibition of the same things made prohibited by blood relations.
It demonstrates that there is a difference of opinion regarding the suckling of adults and its resultant effects..

1454

Zaynab bint Abi Salamah reported that her mother ’Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, reported: The other wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) refused to let anyone privately enter their houses by such suckling. They said to ‘Ā’ishah: "By Allah, we do not see this except as a dispensation which the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave to Sālim in particular. No one would enter our houses or see us by such suckling.".

Commentary : The Hadīth addresses an incident that took place during the Prophet's lifetime, namely suckling an adult, which means suckling a person after the age of two years and the time of weaning, and beyond, so that he can be Mahram - like suckling in the age of suckling. ’Umm Salamah, the Prophet's wife, informs that all the wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) refused to let anyone privately enter their houses by such suckling that is given to a person after the age of weaning, for they were commanded to observe Hijab. An exception was ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), who held the view that such suckling makes marriage unlawful like suckling during babyhood. They swore to ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and said: "By Allah, we do not see this except as a dispensation which the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave to Sālim", the freed slave of Abu Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him), "in particular"; not generally for everyone. Therefore, we will not let anyone enter our houses or see us by such suckling.
The dispensation which the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave to Sālim in particular is mentioned in a Hadīth narrated by Muslim in his Sahīh Collection, in which ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reported: that Sālim, the freed slave of Abu Hudhayfah, was with Abu Hudhayfah and his family in their house. His wife Sahlah the daughter of Suhayl came to the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "Sālim has reached the age of manhood and understands what men understand. He enters our house, and I think that Abu Hudhayfah is not comfortable with that." Thereupon, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: "Suckle him and what Abu Hudhayfah feels will go away." She returned and said: "Indeed, I suckled him, and what Abu Hudhayfah felt went away."
It is reported in a Hadīth narrated by Abu Dāwūd that ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) would ask the daughters of her sisters and brothers to suckle whomever she liked to enter her house - even if he was an adult - five times, and then he would enter her house. However, ’Umm Salamah and the other wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) refused to let anyone enter their houses by such suckling unless the suckling occurred in the cradle. Hence, the statements and attitudes of other wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) constituted evidence that the suckling of an adult does not count, has no weight, and does not establish the unlawfulness of marriage; and that true suckling happens in babyhood, and what happened in the story of Sālim is an exceptional peculiarity that was limited to him and does not apply to anyone else. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) emphasized that not every suckling makes marriage unlawful. In a Hadīth in the Two Sahīh Collections, he said: "Indeed, suckling is from hunger" i.e., the suckling that counts is the one that occurs at the time when milk is relied upon for food and in the amounts that affect the growth of the baby's body..

1456

Abu Sa‘īd al-Khudri reported: that at the battle of Hunayn, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) sent an army to Awtās. They encountered an enemy, fought, attained victory over them, and took female captives from them. Some of the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon them) seemed to have refrained from having intercourse with them, as they had husbands among the polytheists. So, Allah Almighty revealed in this regard: {Also [prohibited are] married women except for female slaves you may own} [Surat an-Nisā': 24], i.e., they are lawful for you when their waiting periods come to an end..

Commentary : The Shariah regulated the religious rulings regarding times of peace and war. Since war results in captives from the men of the enemy and their women, the Qur’an and the Sunnah clarified the rulings concerning them. It prohibited copulation with pregnant and married female captives until they gave birth or until non-pregnant captives were verified to be non-pregnant by having menses.
In this Hadīth, Abu Sa‘īd al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) informs that during the battle of Hunayn - which took place in the eighth Hijri year, after the Conquest of Makkah, between the Muslims and the people of Tā’if among the two tribes of Hawāzin and Thaqīf, in a valley called Hunayn, which is situated between Makkah and Tā’if; as the disbelievers had gone out with their property, women, and children; and after Hawāzin and Thaqīf were defeated and Allah granted victory to His Prophet and the Muslims, the fleeing disbelievers withdrew to the valley of Awtās, which is close to Hunayn - the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) sent an army to them, and they encountered an enemy from the disbelievers, whom they fought, overcame, and defeated. Among their spoils were captives from the polytheist women. Some of the Prophet's Companions refrained - out of fear of committing a sin - from having intercourse with them because they were married women, and a married woman is not lawful for anyone other than her husband. So, they thought that their marriage to their husbands was not severed. Therefore, Allah Almighty revealed verses demonstrating the ruling on copulation with those they refrained from: {Also [prohibited are] married women except for female slaves you may own.} [Surat an-Nisā’: 24] i.e., prohibited for you is marrying married women, except for the women you possess by taking them into captivity, as their marriage to their disbelieving husbands is dissolved. They become lawful for you after their wombs are verified to be empty of the semen of the disbelieving husbands, either by childbirth, in case the woman is pregnant, or by one menstrual period, if she is not pregnant.
The Hadīth indicates that the marriage of polytheists is dissolved if their wives are taken captive, as they go into the ownership of their captors.
It shows how a person should pause, search, and ask about any matter when he is not certain of the reason behind it and its ruling. This is the attitude of anyone who fears Allah Almighty..

1460

‘Abdul-Malik ibn Abi Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān reported: that when the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married ’Umm Salamah and she stayed with him and it was the morning, he said to her: "You are not humbled in the estimation of your husband. If you wish, I will stay with you for seven nights; and if you wish, I will stay with you for three nights, and then visit the others in turn." She said: "Stay for three nights.".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was both fair and merciful in dealing with his wives. In this Hadīth, the Tābi‘i ‘Abdul-Malik ibn Abi Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān relates that when the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married' Umm Salamah Hind bint Abi' Umayyah (may Allah be pleased with her) after her husband Abu Salamah (may Allah be pleased with him) had died, he stayed in her house for three nights, which was his Sunnah in case the woman was previously married; then when he wanted to leave her house and go to the others, he noticed that she considered the three nights to be little. So, he said to her: "You are not humbled in the estimation of your husband" i.e., you will not be underestimated and your right will not be lost at all. Then the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) gave her the choice, saying: If you wish, I will stay with you for seven nights" - and stay with other wives of mine for the same period - "and if you wish, I will stay with you for three nights, and then visit the others in turn." i.e., if you are content with these three nights, I will go to my wives in turn, one night at a time, till I come back to you. She said: "Stay for three nights" i.e., I am content with the three nights, to avoid his long absence from her..

1460

‘Abdul-Malik ibn Abi Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān reported: When the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married Umm Salamah, he entered upon her, and when he wanted to leave, she took hold of his garment. The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: If you wish, I can stay longer with you and count it for you; a virgin is entitled to seven, whereas a previously married woman is entitled to three..

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) set the greatest example in fulfilling justice between his wives and putting the family relations in order in case of polygamy.
In this Hadīth, the Tābi‘i Abu Bakr ibn ‘Abdur-Rahmān (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that when the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married ’Umm Salamah Hind bint Abi ’Umayyah (may Allah be pleased with her) after the death of her husband, Abu Salamah (may Allah be pleased with him), he entered upon her and consummated the marriage with her. After spending three days with her, he wanted to leave her house for the house of another one of his wives; however, she took hold of his garment so he would stay with her. He (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) clarified to ’Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) what she was entitled to regarding his overnight stay with her, saying: "If you wish" to have more than three days "I can stay longer with you and count it for you," i.e., calculate for you the total time of my stay with you because of this extra time. In other words: I extend my stay and the rest of my wives become entitled to the same number of days. Then, he informed her that a virgin wife - who had not been previously married - was entitled to seven nights than his other wives if he had sexual intercourse with her; whereas the Thayyib - who had been previously married - was entitled to three days.
In another Hadīth narrated by Muslim, when the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) married ’Umm Salamah and she stayed with him (during the night), he said to her: "Indeed, you are not inferior in the sight of your family," i.e., you will not be underestimated, and none of your right will be lost; rather, you will take it in full. He then gave her the choice to stay for three days with her without having to make up for them or to stay for seven days with her and make it up for the rest of his wives. The three have the privilege of not having to make up for them, while the seven have the privilege of being successive and fulfilling perfect intimacy. ' Umm Salamah said: "Stay three," so she chose the three because they were not to be made up for, and he would, thus, return to her sooner since he would spend the night with them in turn then come to her. However, if she had chosen seven, he would not return to her except after making it up (days) for his other wives, and he would, thus, be far from her for a long time.
The virgin is exclusively granted seven days given her shyness, which requires extra time, patience, sensibleness, and gentleness, besides the fact that one feels inclined to stay longer with her so that he can stay with her for up to seven days in a row. On the other hand, the previously married woman had already experienced marriage, and her need for intimacy is lesser, besides the fact that one is less attached to her than to the virgin. However, given that she is not familiar yet with the company, she is honored by extending the stay, which is three. After that, he has to start dividing his time, whether he has one, two, or three wives before her.
The Hadīth indicates the recommendation of showing kindness to one's family, children, and others..

1462

Anas reported: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) had nine wives. Giving them an equal share of his time meant he would not return to the first woman except on the ninth day. So, they used to gather every night at the house of the one to whom he would come. He was at 'Ā’ishah's house. When Zaynab came, he stretched his hand towards her, thereupon, she said: This is Zaynab. So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) withdrew his hand. There was an altercation between the two until their voices became loud. Iqāmah (second call for prayer) was pronounced for prayer and it happened that Abu Bakr was passing by and he heard their voices. He said: O Messenger of Allah, come for prayer and throw dust in their mouths. So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) went out and ‘Ā’ishah said: Now the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) will finish his prayer, and Abu Bakr will come and do such-and-such to me. When the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) finished his prayer, Abu Bakr came to her and spoke to her in harsh words and said: Is this how you behave?!.

Commentary : The Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) were keen on reporting all the Prophet's acts, even what used to happen inside the house of his everyday life affairs. The purpose was to know how the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) used to deal with various situations in life to follow his example.
In this Hadīth, Anas ibn Mālik (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) had nine wives. When giving each wife her share and turn on her day and night, he would not return to the wife who took the first turn in his overnight stay except after nine nights, given that he used to stay a day and a night with each of them. It was the habit of the Prophet's wives to gather every night at the house of the one with whom the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) would stay to enjoy his company and be close to him, then, each would go to her room.
One time, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was at ‘Ā’ishah's house, on her day and night, and his wives gathered there as usual. When his wife Zaynab bint Jahsh (may Allah be pleased with her) came, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) stretched his hand to her by way of fondling. It is said: The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) thought it was ‘Ā’ishah because it was night and it was her night and turn. So, ‘Ā’ishah said: "This" towards whom you stretched your hand is "Zaynab", as if ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) criticized the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) for fondling someone other than her since it was her night and her turn in her share of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him). So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) did not stretch his hand towards Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with her) and stopped. Thereupon, Zaynab and 'Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with them) altercated, disagreed, and argued due to jealousy "until their voices became loud," i.e., they were making immense noise.
Meanwhile, the time for prayer was due, and the Iqāmah was pronounced, and Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) passed by while they were in such a state of arguing noisily and loudly. So, he heard the voice of ‘Ā’ishah and Zaynab disputing. Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "O Messenger of Allah, come out for prayer" and throw dust in their mouths, which is an indirect reference to rebuking and putting an end to their dispute and loud voices. "Hathyah": the amount that fills both hands.
So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) went out and ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said to those who were with her, after the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) had left with Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him): "Now the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) will finish his prayer, and Abu Bakr will come and do such-and-such to me," i.e. when Abu Bakr finishes his prayer with the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him), he will come to me and rebuke and scold me severely for what I did, as a father would typically discipline his daughter.
‘Ā’ishah's fears came true, as when the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) finished his prayer, Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) went to her, blamed her, rebuked her, and scolded her severely for raising her voice in the presence of the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him). Abu Bakr said to ‘Ā’ishah: "Is this how you behave?!" He was blaming her for her dispute with Zaynab in the Prophet's presence.
The Hadīth clarifies the Prophet's fulfillment of justice between his wives and his kindness and courteousness with them.
It signifies how a husband should give each of his wives an equal share of his time.
It also highlights the virtue of Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) for showing compassion towards the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him).
Moreover, it shows that the less qualified person could call the attention of the more qualified one to what is good for him..

1463

‘Ā’ishah reported: I never saw a woman I would like to be in whose Mislākh (skin) more than Sawdah bint Zam‘ah. She was a woman characterized by sharpness. As she became old, she gave her day with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) to ‘Ā’ishah. She said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have granted my day with you to ‘Ā’ishah." So, the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) allocated two days to ‘Ā’ishah; her own day and that of Sawdah..

Commentary : The Mother of the Believers Sawdah bint Zam‘ah, wife of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) was one of the ascetic and devout worshippers. The Prophet's wives acknowledged each other's merits and were quite aware of what distinguished each one of them from the others.
In this Hadīth, ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reports that she never wished or liked to be like any of the Prophet's wives or in her place except for Sawdah bint Zam‘ah, as she wished and loved to be like her in worship and obedience, and in her manner and conduct. "Mislākh": skin, and it means: that I become her in terms of the qualities that she admired about her. Her saying: "She was a woman characterized by sharpness" is a way of describing Sawdah, not criticizing her. She meant by that to highlight her strength and solidity in challenging situations. When Sawdah grew old, she granted her day with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) to ‘Ā’ishah. Sawdah (may Allah be pleased with her) did this out of her sagacity, as she gave her day to the woman who loved the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) most. So, ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) had two days with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him): her day and Sawdah's day. This does not mean that they were two days in a row; rather, what is meant is clarifying the number of ‘Ā’ishah's days with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) in each of his rounds with his wives (may Allah be pleased with them).
The Hadīth points out that Ghibtah (envy free from malice) is in goodness, and it means one's wish to be like another in his praiseworthy qualities.
It also clarifies how the Prophet's wives loved him and sought to please him, and it guides the wives to seek to please her husband by doing what he likes..

1467

Abdullah ibn ‘Amr reported that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "This world is an enjoyment, and the best of its enjoyments is a righteous woman.".

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) guided men and youth to choose the righteous woman for marriage because she is one of the greatest blessings bestowed upon man in this world.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) reports that "the world is a Matā‘," and Matā‘ is what one benefits from and enjoys, and the best worldly enjoyment for man is the religious wife, who gladdens him by looking at her and by her obedience. She is chaste, guarding herself in his absence, and she is honest, protecting his wealth. This is the essence of the righteous woman; she is righteous in her religion and herself and a reformer of her husband's conditions.
Here, he mentioned the woman in specific terms, and qualified her with righteousness to make it known that she is deemed the evilest worldly enjoyment if she does not have such a characteristic. This is because if righteousness does not prevent her from evil, she becomes evil itself. In this case, she does not push her husband or urge him except towards evil, and the least she can do is to make him crave this world until he puts himself into destruction therein..

1468

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, if he witnesses something, let him speak good or remain silent. And take care of women, for the woman was created from a rib and the most crooked part of the rib is its top. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it; and if you leave it, it will remain crooked. So, take good care of women..

Commentary : The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) advises us to adopt manners and morals that enhance familiarity and love between Muslims.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) informs that "whoever believes in Allah" Who created him perfectly, in terms of belief and acts, by testifying that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, and by adhering to the pillars of faith and its characteristics as a whole including words and deeds;
and believes in "the Last Day," which is the Day of Judgment to which he will return and where he will receive recompense for his deeds, and here, belief in Allah and the Last Day were mentioned in particular, among all other things that one should believe in; in reference to the beginning and the end of all things, i.e., if he believes in Allah Who created him and that He will recompense him on the Day of Judgment for his good and evil deeds, then, let him speak good or remain silent. This wording is meant to encourage and promote adherence to the command or the prohibition mentioned in the Hadīth. "If he witnesses something" in general, whether between two, a group, or the like, and there is a need for him to speak about it, then let him consider it carefully; if there is goodness in his words, then he should speak, or else he should keep silent.
The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) used to advise men to treat their wives kindly in compliance with the commands of Islam. Given the fact that women are originally created with crookedness, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) drew attention to that saying: "Take care of women" with the following addition in Al-Bukhāri version: "good care", i.e., advise each other to treat them kindly. "For the woman was created from a rib," which is one of the chest bones. In other words, there is crookedness in their original creation. "And the most crooked part of the rib is its top", this description is meant as an exaggeration in describing such crookedness and to emphasize the probability of breaking because the difficulty of straightening the top is apparent. It is said: Perhaps this is meant to refer to the woman's upper part that has her head and tongue, from where the crookedness springs. It is also said: That the form of "A‘waj" (crooked) here is meant as a description not to indicate preference, as colors and defects do not have forms indicating preference. If you try to straighten the rib and make it straight, it will break. Similarly, if you want a woman to be perfectly straight in morals, this will lead to breaking her, which is divorcing her. as mentioned in Muslim's version. "And if you leave it, it will remain crooked" as it was originally created, so it is impossible to straighten it. This is set as an example of the crookedness in women's morals; if sought to be upright, this could lead to divorce. Then, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "So, take good care of women," i.e.; there is no way except enduring this crookedness patiently. Hence, this should be tolerated with patience, and women should be treated benevolently and kindly.
Or it could be referring to gentle redress; refraining from exaggeration that leads to breaking and from negligence that leads to persistence in crookedness. To sum up, he should not neglect her crookedness if she exceeds her natural deficiency level by committing sins or abandoning duties; however, what is meant is that he should neglect her crookedness regarding what is permissible.
The Hadīth implies guidance to maintaining one's tongue and protecting it from idle talk.
It also sheds light on the importance of appeasement in attracting souls and winning hearts.
Moreover, it shows how women could be handled through pardon and patience with their crookedness..

1469

Abu Hurayrah reported that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Let not a believing man hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another - Or he said: another one.".

Commentary : Faith calls to noble morals. Thus, no believing man or woman is free from good manners, as faith requires the existence of praiseworthy qualities in them.
In this Hadīth, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) says: "Let not a believing man Yafrak a believing woman," and "fark" means hatred and dislike. The "believing man" and the "believing woman" here refer to the husband and wife. It was said: This is a form of negation that denotes prohibition, i.e., she must not be totally hated. It was also said: It is a prohibition, i.e., the husband must not absolutely hate his wife in such a way that leads to oppressing, abandoning, and turning away from her. Then, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) explained this by saying that if the husband hates a bad quality in her, he will find another quality that pleases him. She could be rude but at the same time religious, pretty, chaste, or kind to him, or the like. So, he approves of this good quality that suits him and, thus, faces what he dislikes about her with what he likes about her. In this way, what he likes of her good qualities will help him patiently endure what he dislikes of her bad qualities. So, he forgives the bad for the sake of the good and overlooks what he dislikes for the sake of what he likes. And in this way, he will not absolutely hate her to the extent that he breaks up with her.
The Hadīth encourages good treatment and companionship..

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